Showing posts with label online dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label online dating. Show all posts

Monday, July 7, 2008

How to Make Your Online Personal Ad Stand Out

Competition, aside from you being such a screw-up, is probably the biggest problem you have when you are on the dating game. Now imagine the competition growing into millions because you decided to try your luck with online dating. It will be like competing with half of the world's population for that special someone out there on the information superhighway. That is why it is a key element for you stand our from the crowd, and a huge crowd at that, that will have you being noticed by all those hot people of the Interwebs. And you can do it by making a flawless and perfect online personal ad that will introduce you to the whole world as the perfect guy or gal. So here are just some tips on how you can do that.

1. Maximize and optimize
What this means is that you should be able to capitalize with all your resources and use them very wisely. Most dating sites out there have limits when it comes to personal introductions, photos that can be posted and size of video personals. So use what you have and maximize as much as possible. If you can only put 10 photos in your ad, use all of them and put your best face forward. Don't waste precious space for images of cartoon characters and our pets just because they are cute. If you can, have professionals do your photos for you.

2. Put your best face forward
This is the second time I have said this, well, because it is important to do so. It won't matter how awesome your ad is, or if you have awesome pictures taken by a top-class photographer showing your best assets. If you have a little flaw in your ad, say a misspelled word or wrong grammar on your introduction, or one of your photos have you looking like you just woke up, these will definitely ruin everything you have worked for.

3. Speak your mind
There is nothing wrong in telling the whole world what type of person you are looking for, as long as they are feasible and not weird. So if you are looking for someone to have fun with, say it. You want a blonde, brunette, redhead, say it. This will just show everyone who happens to get across your profile that your are a person who knows what he/she wants and speak up to get it. Confidence, always the best tool in impressing other people.

4. Get their attention
The first thing, aside from your photos maybe, that can call attention of other people to look into your profile and waste some time reading it is your headline. Choose something that can easily grab people's attention. Be unique. Everyone is so tired of the line "Looking fo someone to have fun with..." or "Lonely guy seeking girl." These are just pathetic. Why not try something like "Confessions of a San Diego Bachelor" or "Days in the Life of a Sleek Chick from New York..." Now that will definitely have you shining above the rest.

5. Use "social proof"
What is "social proof", you ask? Well, this is one way you can show other people on the Net that you are not some weirdo or basketcase looking for some fast thrills. By posting a couple of photos or you with your friends, preferably those that are good-looking, you are assuring them not you are not some nutjob. This way, you also show them that you are up to their standards because beautiful people hang out with you.

6. Get a second opinion
About your profile that is. When you're done with your personal ad, have a friend - preferably that of the opposite sex - to critique your ad for you. This way, you'll be able to test drive your ad before taking out on the road. If they make fun of something you posted in your ad, change it immediately because it's for your own good.

7. Always be on top
Most dating sites place profiles that have been recently updated at the very top of the search results. And these profiles on the top of the bunch gets pretty much all the attention. That is exactly where you want your ad to be at all the time. So make sure that you update your profile as often as you can so you'll always be on top of everybody else. It can be anything, as long as you make little tweaking on your page to make sure you will rise to the top.

Follow these online dating tips and learn how to get women interested enough for a date. At that point, you'll be able to get take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.

Monday, April 28, 2008

Online Dating Safety Tips

I know dating has been one hell of a task for all of us. Dating etiquette, dating rules, dating do's and don't's - they may all seem lot of work but knowing all of them will save everyone of us lots of tears and blood when it comes to dating heartbreaks. But with the super-fast growth of technology, especially with IT and the Internet, there is one more thing daters out there should take into consideration. Dating becomes more complicated as online dating blossoms from out of nowhere. But don't worry, we here at Dating 4-1-1 still have everything on control as we give you some of online dating do's and don't's. By just following these tips, you'll probably have more luck with scoring a decent relationship. Or else you'll just end up crying once again. Or worse, being a victim of online scammers.

Choose the proper username. Your username will be your moniker you whole Net life. Unless you're some scammer out for a kill, then you should just stick to one username. Also remember that everybody who sees your username, no matter if its on chat sites, forum and other personal sites, will associate it to your personality. So using suggestive names like "sexybabe69" or "wellhung_guy" is just like asking for trouble. Be more wholesome with your choice of username.

Guard personal information. Never ever give out to strangers important details about you and your life. Maybe you can give them your real first name, sex, age, location - simple stuff. But never ever give out social security numbers, address, credit card information and any information that may lead to identity fraud. C'mon, there's a reason why our mothers always tell us not to talk to strangers.

Check for honesty. Ask for previous relationships. You don't want to be a third-party in some married couple life. Make sure that you get the details of it from the person you are planning to date.

Exchange photos. This can be done even at the start of your online relationship. But this is a must when you guys decide to meet up personally for the first time. You don't wanna guess whom you are meeting just when you're already at the place.

Arrange personal meeting ahead of schedule. Do it maybe a week or two before the actual date. This way you'll be able to be ready for the big day. The tips on first dates also apply here.

Meet in a public place. This is to make sure that you will be safe even if you're meeting with a total stranger. Be sure that there are lots of people wherever you guys go to avoid being a tight situation you don't wanna be in.

Don't drink too much alcohol. Remember, being drunk will affect and cloud your judgment. And you don't wanna be vulnerable when with someone you just met. And you definitely don't wanna look like a drunken mess with the person who you are wishing will be the right one for you.

Always be alert. Falling head-over-heels is not that suited with situation like this. Though the person you are dating is the most romantic person you've ever met, this doesn't mean you're already out of the loop. Just put in mind people being victimized by abductors who are like Shakespeare when they talk.

Exchange cellphone number. You'll probably wanna go on another date if everything went to their right places on your first date. But that doesn't mean you should lose your composure. You can give out your number as long as its your cellphone and not your home phone number. This is safer because they will not be able to track you down if they turned out to be crazy freaks.

Never let your date take you home. You don't want them tracking you down by not giving them your home phone number. So it's just stupid to let them know where you're living.

So there you go, some tips to keep your online dating smooth and safe. Online dating, as many of you know, is a very risky way to find your partner. But with the right knowledge, it can be one rollercoaster ride full of fun and surprises. Go logon now to your favorite dating site and start looking for that right person for you.