Healthy Date Tips for the Health-Conscious

Are you the kind of health-buff who always see to it that everything you do should be at par to your dietary and health regiment? And is this healthy lifestyle the reason why you don't do out much on dates because dates are always full of food, booze and sitting around that is not really parts of your routine? Well, here are some fit date ideas that will not only have you keep your healthy living but also have you start an even healthier social life:

1. Rock Climbing
This activity may actually have been made for couples. First, it involves trust, which is pretty much the most important thing when it comes to relationship. Rock climbing will also allow you to get touchy with your date, especially if at least one of you is a first-timer in this activity.

2. Hiking
We've been insisting here at Dating 4-1-1 that dates should be done somewhere the both of you can talk and get to know each other. With hiking, you can do this at the same time burn some calories in the process. Match this with fresh air and stunning scenery, you get a very unique romantic date both of you definitely will remember for a long time.

3. Frisbee
The joys of a Frisbee date are threefold: First, anyone can do it. Second, it's free. Third, it will put her in a playful, frolicsome mood. Need I say more?

4. Yoga
Yoga may not be the most macho of activities a guy wants, but hey, it's something both of you can try for the first time and learn together. It's a sure fired way to have you guys earning good points as your lady dates will think of you as the sweet, sensitive guy they have been looking for. For the girls, you can show to the guys just how limber and flexible you are, showing to your date how sexy you can get. They will surely be drooling over you in no time. Win-win situation no matter which side you're playing for.

5. Kayaking
Could anything be more romantic than paddling through the open water next with your date? None! But just remember to pick a scenic locale that is not too rough for the both of you, especially if neither of you haven't tried this sport in the past. This activity will also have you seeing your date and their body clad only on their sexiest wetsuits.

6. Ice Skating
This activity is the stuff used on romantic movies. And there's a reason why. Helping your date to tie their laces starts off this date. Then imagine the both of you being in a chilly state and surely, one of you will be reaching out the other's hand for guidance and warmth.

7. Batting Cage
It doesn't matter if you're no Barry Bonds or Mark McGwire, going to the batting cage and teaching your lady friend the basics of America's favorite pasttime will surely have you earning much needed points. This date will surely be something new to most girls as baseball is not common sports for women.

8. Mountain Biking
Just like hiking, this activity will let you and your date talk and get to know each other. And for dates, that is exactly what you're looking for. Just don't get too serious with the biking part though and leave your date on the trail all alone.

9. Driving Range
Just like being in the batting cage. Only difference, a club as the bat and it's called golf.

10. Dancing
Really self-explanatory. You've seen it in movies and you know just how romantic times on the dance floor can be. So why not try it for yourself.

There you go. Be healthy at the same time, be hooked. Nothing like the joy of sports with someone to play them with. Now get on out of here and make those arrangements.

What NOT to do on the First Date

First impressions last - that's what most people say. Well, because it's true. That is why everyone who is on the dating game should know that the most important part the game is te first date and how you can use it to either make or break a relationship. Knowing what to do is one thing, but people should also know what NOT to do. And here are just some of them:

1. Trying too hard
It may be true that it's important to establish to the other person that you are a nice person, but it is also true that you should not overdo it. If you're a guy, being the knight in shining armor may be good, but it can also be too tacky. For the ladies, don't be too demure or sensitive. Just be your good self and let everything fall into their right place.

2. Choosing a bad venue
A couple of examples of bad dating venue are a fastfood joint, a Hooters bar and a very expensive resto. The first will tell your date you're cheap, the second that you're a pervert, and the last that you're an arrogant show-off. Just make it low profile, not too cheap and not too expensive. Or you can go on and be creative. A coffee house, the park, the beach - anywhere where the both of you can relax and have a good time talking and getting to know each other.

3. Being wishy-washy
If your date asks you where you wanna go, don't answer them with "doesn't matter." When it's time to order, don't be long and then just say that you're having what your date is having. This shows them that you are a spineless human being with no capability to decided for himself/herself. This is more awful if you're the guy. You don't want your date to think that you are the kind of guy who don't have plans and direction in life.

4. Watching too much TV
If by any chance you and your date end up in a place where there is a TV, say a restaurant or a bar with a tube behind the bar, you should never ever let them catch you watching it. Or better yet, don't even dare try to watch from it. And it doesn't matter if your favorite soap or gameshow is on. If your date is talking, you are suppose to listen and not wander on other things.

5. Being too honest
Honesty is the best policy, but not every time. And that includes the first date. This may not be the right time to tell your date that you have been arrested for drunk-driving or you have just gotten out of rehab. But that doesn't mean that you can lie. Just don't bring up your dark past when it's the first time you're going out with another person.

6. Constantly interrupting
The date is not only about you. Don't keep on jumping in when your date is trying to tell you a story about a trip they had or about their work. There is time for you to talk, and that is not when they are talking. That is just plain rude and is not only applicable on dates but in all kinds of social function. You should have known that by now.

7. Dressing inappropriately
Okay, you wanna impress your date. But please, don't do it with your body. If you happen to have a nice set of abs or breasts, don't flaunt too much of it and show them off with slutty clothes. Though this may work for some people, dressing up properly for the ocassion is still the prerequisite.

8. Going on taboo topics
You can talk about all sorts of things during your first date: yourself, background, work, past trips, etc. But just not the following: previous relationships, past heartbreaks, religion, politics and money. Also, avoid dropping names and bragging because these are topics more appropriate for locker room talks.

9. Flirting with the waiter/waitress
It doesn't matter if the person doing the waiting on your table is cute, hot and sexy. You are on a date and keep your focus on the person you're with. It's just rude to keep on checking out the waiter/waitress, or any other people around, when you are on a date.

10. Being drunk
It's okay to have fun on the first date. In fact, that is the main reason why you're there in the first place. Just don't have too much fun. It's okay to order a couple of alcoholic drinks, maybe a tequila shots for both of you. But it's important to know your limit because you don't wanna end up pissed drunk and you're date, the one person you are trying to impress, see you puking your guts out or passed out somewhere. That's just not cool.

So there you go. Just remember these simple scenearios and never ever let them happen on your first date. And we gurantee you will have an awesome dating life ahead of you.

How to Make Your Online Personal Ad Stand Out

Competition, aside from you being such a screw-up, is probably the biggest problem you have when you are on the dating game. Now imagine the competition growing into millions because you decided to try your luck with online dating. It will be like competing with half of the world's population for that special someone out there on the information superhighway. That is why it is a key element for you stand our from the crowd, and a huge crowd at that, that will have you being noticed by all those hot people of the Interwebs. And you can do it by making a flawless and perfect online personal ad that will introduce you to the whole world as the perfect guy or gal. So here are just some tips on how you can do that.

1. Maximize and optimize
What this means is that you should be able to capitalize with all your resources and use them very wisely. Most dating sites out there have limits when it comes to personal introductions, photos that can be posted and size of video personals. So use what you have and maximize as much as possible. If you can only put 10 photos in your ad, use all of them and put your best face forward. Don't waste precious space for images of cartoon characters and our pets just because they are cute. If you can, have professionals do your photos for you.

2. Put your best face forward
This is the second time I have said this, well, because it is important to do so. It won't matter how awesome your ad is, or if you have awesome pictures taken by a top-class photographer showing your best assets. If you have a little flaw in your ad, say a misspelled word or wrong grammar on your introduction, or one of your photos have you looking like you just woke up, these will definitely ruin everything you have worked for.

3. Speak your mind
There is nothing wrong in telling the whole world what type of person you are looking for, as long as they are feasible and not weird. So if you are looking for someone to have fun with, say it. You want a blonde, brunette, redhead, say it. This will just show everyone who happens to get across your profile that your are a person who knows what he/she wants and speak up to get it. Confidence, always the best tool in impressing other people.

4. Get their attention
The first thing, aside from your photos maybe, that can call attention of other people to look into your profile and waste some time reading it is your headline. Choose something that can easily grab people's attention. Be unique. Everyone is so tired of the line "Looking fo someone to have fun with..." or "Lonely guy seeking girl." These are just pathetic. Why not try something like "Confessions of a San Diego Bachelor" or "Days in the Life of a Sleek Chick from New York..." Now that will definitely have you shining above the rest.

5. Use "social proof"
What is "social proof", you ask? Well, this is one way you can show other people on the Net that you are not some weirdo or basketcase looking for some fast thrills. By posting a couple of photos or you with your friends, preferably those that are good-looking, you are assuring them not you are not some nutjob. This way, you also show them that you are up to their standards because beautiful people hang out with you.

6. Get a second opinion
About your profile that is. When you're done with your personal ad, have a friend - preferably that of the opposite sex - to critique your ad for you. This way, you'll be able to test drive your ad before taking out on the road. If they make fun of something you posted in your ad, change it immediately because it's for your own good.

7. Always be on top
Most dating sites place profiles that have been recently updated at the very top of the search results. And these profiles on the top of the bunch gets pretty much all the attention. That is exactly where you want your ad to be at all the time. So make sure that you update your profile as often as you can so you'll always be on top of everybody else. It can be anything, as long as you make little tweaking on your page to make sure you will rise to the top.

Follow these online dating tips and learn how to get women interested enough for a date. At that point, you'll be able to get take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.

Original Date Ideas

Originality, most people believe, is one important factor when part of the dating game. That is why it is important to set yourself apart from all the rest when it comes to going out for the night. So here are just some original date ideas that you cana take your prospect to to make sure they will remember not just the date, but also you.

Action-packed
To ensure a fun-filled date for both you and your date, you should take them to a place where there are a lot of things going on. A good example would be an outdoor mall where there are funky shops and street performers. This way, you get to save some cash because the entertainment is built right into the experience, at the same time, you can have quality time of talking and getting to know each other while strolling around.

Night Walk
This is much like the first date idea, but put it in a night setting. This can be more romantic if you just know what to do. Enjoy the night breeze and the sparkles of the stars, and make the dark your only witness for your awesome night out.

Shopping Galore
This is actually a bit tricky. Yes, both of you can certainly have a great time and have some clean fun. This is as long as you have a limit to your spending and not be their sugar mommy or sugar daddy who'll buy everything they want. And cute idea is also trying to have your date pick out something for you that you can use, maybe the next time you go out again.

Park Playtime
Bring the inner kid inside of you and your date by going to the nearest park and hang out by the playground. Swing on the swings, hop on the see-saw and ride the merry-go-round - these just spells fun all over the place.

Dog Walking
This is specially good if you are a guy trying to impress a girl. Everybody knows that girls love animals. So with this date, you get to show her your soft side by walking her dog with her. Or maybe our dog. Or your neighbor's dog. Doesn't really matter.

Be a Teacher
Teach your date something. It can be any activity under the sun. Cooking, pottery, surfing, boxing, basketball, knitting - you name it. As long as you too get a chance to bond and get to know each other, it's fine in the books.

Bike Ride
Just like walking, but a faster pace. To make this date work even better, make sure you know your route well and there are good places there where you can take a quick break. A coffee shop or a juice bar are just a couple of good ideas.

Late-night Dip
If you're feeling a bit adventurous and mischievous, why not try going for a night swim. Nothing is more fun and relaxing than being refresh by cold pool water, or even from a lake. Not only will the two of your have fun, you'll also get to see your date in a bikini or trunks.

There you have it, just some tips on how you can make your date a bit more memorable for you and your partner. These tried-and-tested date ideas will definitely have you scheduling another night out, as long as you don't act creepy.

Ways to Have an Unforgettable First Date

As we all know, the first date is a make-or-break situation. The success of the blossoming relationship strongly depends on whether the couple had a good time the first time they went out. This is also the moment where lasting impressions are made that will be the basis of a continuing partnership. That is why we here at Dating 4-1-1 thought of giving all you people a little reminder on how you can make your first date with that special someone extra romantic and unforgettable.

1. Set the date up right
An unforgettable date starts with a solid setup. So when you call up the person you wanna go out with, just fgo straight to the point and avoid stalling and delaying. Just tell them that you wanna have lunch or have drinks together. This way the other person won't think that you are some pathetic loser who have nothing better to do than to bug them. This shows them that you are a busy individual, but not too busy to get some time with them.

2. Don't be too clingy
One big mistake common on dates, especially on first dates, is that most people try too hard to impress the other person. They make such a big deal in showing their dates that their attention, time and effort are directed to them. Though this may sound sweet, not if done too much. Remember to still give them their space so they won't think once again that you are a desperate loser. Just be cool.

3. Keep your composure
Most people can't keep their composure when other people tests them. But don't ever think that when you are on a date, this is not going to happen. Because it's just a natural act for people to challenge their date's intellect or character, especially women. So just don't let the other person get you off balanced. Respond to them as fast as you can, giving them responses that will impress them of you as a person.

4. Make your move
Remember that whoever does the first move on a date will pretty much be the one who'll have control for the rest of it. So you just have to be smart in figuring out when the right moment arrives for you to make your move. Don't disappoint your date because this is probably what they are also been waiting for all night. But of course, you still have to be subtle with it because you might end up scaring them off.

5. Make it the first
The most effective way to make a lasting impression on the first date and making it special is by having a "first" on it. What do we mean, you ask? Do something that is a first for you date. This way, she'll always remember your date because it is the when she first did a particular thing.

So there you go. Good luck on going out there and grabbing that special someone for you. Just remember to always be yourself because that is the best way to actually be successful in the dating game.

You've Been Single Way Too Long Because...

Being single is great. You can do whatever you want, whenever, wherever and how you want it. You can come and go as you please. And you don't have to answer to anyone. But however great it may sound, being single is equal to being alone. And being alone your whole life is just not that cool. Being single is tantamount to being sad, lonely and, yes, celibate. So you better stand up from where you are sitting and go to the nearby bar and get yourself a drink. And maybe get yourself a pretty little girl or a hunky, handsome guy who will be willing to go out on a date with you and change your very lonesome life. You have just been single way too long because you...


...assume that you repulse women.
This is not good. Because confidence is one of the best weapon anyone can have in this dog-eat-dog world. And if you have become a single for too long, there is a tendency for you to lose your confidence that you can attract other people. Most people will take a smile or a prolonged glance as a good thing, but not for long-time singles. They have the tendency to take this as people making fun of them and judging them.

...develop bad eating habits.
Because you're always along with nothing to do, you tend to be hungry all the time and craving for food you really don't have to it. Imagine yourself being someone who have just been dumped by your partner, and put that in a time line that extend for years. Junk foods like ice cream and chips are your only friends.

...become too emotional.
Simple questions from friends and colleagues like "How are you doin'?" are answered with long, emotional dramatics of your single life. This is especially true for men who are known not to become too emotional. If you just keep on crying and being a baby about your sad life, better going out more.

...develop poor dating standards.
Okay, so you decide to get up off your butt and go out to find someone out there. But when you reached the bar, you find just about every single person there as attractive even though they are not. This is just a sign that you have been alone for too long because your judgment of other people is starting to plummet. Especially if you're the kind of person who used to be a choosy when it comes to people you go out on dates with.

...get a pet.
You have been single too long, you are always sad and alone. So you think that going to the pet store to get a dog or a cat will solve it. When this happen, back away for a second and think. Do you wanna be that old lady next door with bunch of cats and no other friends? Definitely no!

...surf the Internet to meet people.
Okay, so online dating is a legitimate way to find a date. With this entry, we are actually talking about those mail-order bride sites. If you're a guy and you start surfing these sites "just out of curiosty," there is something wrong with you and you better start assessing the situation before you do something drastic and stupid.

...look at friends as possible lovers.
This is just sad. There's a reason why they are your friends. So you better not scare them off because that boat have already sailed. Just don't be insistent enough to believe that your pals are going to be more than just that. Hey, you may just end up losing friends when you become stubborn.

...play too many video games.
There's a reason why geeks and nerds don't get the ladies. That is because they are too busy with all their science stuff and video games. And if you start engaging in activities like them, well you are becoming one of them because you've been alone for way too long.

...ask your mom for dating advice.
This is probably the last resort for you, especially if you're a guy. You've been single for so long that you are willing to take that awkward step to ask your mother about relationship. Though they may know what's best for you in most situation, parents should just be left at the dark when it comes to people you are trying to get to bed.

...Google for old your exes.
They've already left you. Or you left them. And there is a reason for this. So if you start looking for them once again, or worst, check up on them, it just means that you have become too desperate because you've been alone too long.


What the hell are you waiting for? If you have at least one of these things, then you better get up from that couch. Stop being sad and lonely and start going out more. You definitely need a drastic change with your social life and you better start going on dates before you become a sad middle-aged loner.

Signs That You Are Getting Lucky

One of the most complicated factors when it come to the dating game is whether the other person is interested, especially the more serious part of the relationship, the sexual. It is very easy to misinterpret a mere act of kindness as sexual interest so everybody should be careful not to quick to assume, or else you're goal will just slip away that easily too. So deciphering their gestures, language and movement is very well important in this stage to know when you really are going to get lucky. So we here at Dating 4-1-1 decided to just help you guys out to avoid any more confusions so you'll know when to make THAT move. So here are some signs that may indicate that you are going to get some.

Drinks for everyone
If the person offers to buy you a drink or already bought one for you, it is a clear indication that they are pretty interested in you. This also shows, if the person is a woman, that she is a confident and strong type of lady who knows what she wants. So if she's giving you this invitation, take it before she change her mind.


Touchy feelings
Body language is a key in knowing if a person is interested in you, especially to know if they are willing to go to the physical. So if your date keeps on touching you affectionately on the arms or the legs in the midst of a conversation, chances are they are also trying to tell you that they want you to do the same with them later on. This is also true if they let you touch them and feel you up.

Compliments, compliments, compliments...
Women are not the only ones who like being praised and commended. Men too like getting their egos fed, especially by women. That is why is your date keeps on complimenting your looks, the way you dress and the smell of your cologne, they are definitely looking for something more later on in the night that will let you show them that you like what they were saying about you.

Eye contacts
If your date maintains prolonged eye contacts, those lasting more than 5 seconds with you during your conversation, this just shows that they have extra interest in you and is not afraid to explore on these feelings later on.

Lean in, lean out
Most people maintain their personal space when they are talking to people they don't really like. But the opposite is true for people who is showing interest to another person. So if your date keeps on leaning towards you when you guys are talking, this just means that they definitely wanna get closer.

Sharing privates
Okay, not that private yet. But you're definitely getting closer if your date is already comfortable in sharing private information to you. So if you find yourself engaging in more a personal talk with your date, it is probably time to make your move to be a bit more personal with them too.

Talking dirty
There is no clearer sign that you are getting lucky if your date starts talking about sexual stuff with you. This just means that you are over that vanilla-boundary and ready to explore each other a little bit better. So don't let the moment pass you and reciprocate. If you did it right, you'll probably end up in the right side of the bed.

Okay, so there is really no scientific formula to help daters predict how their night out will end up. But if you only take time to be aware of the small details such as these stated above, you can at least be sure that your rating when it comes to "scoring" will go up a notch higher.

How to Approach Prospective Dates Properly

I know, we are probably taking a step back here discussing this topic. But this is to be fair for those who are still on the lookout for their special someone. Come one, we've all been there. We've become intimidated by other people whom we like that made it very hard for us to talk to them, much less approach them properly. So these are just some tips that you guys should know so you can come up to that pretty lady or hunk guy with all the confidence you'll need to ask them out for a date.


Recognize when they're receptive or not
It's very important to know the signs of whether other people will entertain you once you approach them. Knowing when they are open and ready to engage in some social activities is fundamental so you don't need to waste time for people who won't even let you speak. If they are looking at you and are making eye contact, this is your chance to make your move and introduce yourself.

Keep your fear to yourself
Though being shy around other people may be cute for some, this is certainly not true when you wanna have some good time with them. So you better know your fears and keep it at a minimum when you're out for the night. Confidence is the key so throw away your shyness and be bold when approaching that man/woman you are starting to like.

Avoid hesitation moves
Just like in basketball, you should just always aim for your goal. If you think that you are going to score, just go for it. No time for hesitation because you might just miss your chance in landing a date with that pretty lady or cute guy at the bar.

Keep your cool
No one is perfect. It's a cliche, true. But there is definitely some meaning in it. So if ever you make a boo-boo while talking to that person you wanna go out with, don't panic. Just continue with what you are saying or doing and just forget about the mistake. Remember, you will not get your chance if you lose your cool. You'll just end up screwing yourself over because you kept on thinking that you are already out of the game.

Never seek their approval
Though it may seem nice to have them agree on everything you're saying and doing, this is not a requirement. If they think you're wrong, so what? Just continue and never lose your confidence. People tend to challenge people who are trying to approach them. So don't break and just show them you are one tough person.

Try different attitudes for your approaches
Be creative. Be witty. Be confident, Be casual. Be serious. Be funny. Just don't stick to one style so you can gauge whether one is more effective than the others. This way, you'll also know which suits best for different people.

So there you go! Again, let me remind you that these are not clear standards that you can use to guarantee you a date. These are just mere suggestions that can help you make your dating life easier. The best way to approach dating is still by being yourself and doing everything you think is right.

Things That You Should Never Say to Your Partner

Here at Dating 4-1-1, we've been telling you guys that one of the best way to impress other people is by being a great conversationalist. Knowing what to say, when to say it and how to say it are essentials in becoming a smooth talker who will get all the ladies for the guys and guys for the ladies. But of course, there are still certain things that you must stir clear to avoid any unnecessary events. As they say, there is alwasy an exception to the rule. And those exceptions are the following...

"She's/He's Hot!"
No matter what you do, never ever let your partner hear you say complimenting other people for being hot or beautiful or attractive. Though it's a normal thing to admire other people, just be sure not to be too vocal about it when in front of your lover. This is usually the cause of fights between partners and one of the main reason of relationships breaking up. If you still can't help yourself, better start looking for someone else. Or just hope that the person you referred to as hot won't mind going out with you.

"My ex would..."
Don't ever start a statement with these words, unles you want to start a big fight. Comparing you current partner to your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is just a war waiting to happen. You lover have trusted that you have already moved on, so making any reference to your exes will just bring you back to awkward-ville, and surely you don't like that. Just remember that current relations and exes just won't mix.

"Your friend is a bitch/dick."
Never ever bad-mouht their friends, no matter how big of an asshole they really are. Those are people they trust and care about. Just assume that you too don't like your partner saying bad things about your friends, especially those who are really close to you. This is especially true with girls and their BFF.

"You bitch/dick."
If they don't like you telling bad things about their friends, they probably won't like it when you do it to them. Calling them "bitch" or "dick" or any cuss word for that matter is just not right. Not even when you are in the heat of the moment while your arte making love. Leave those kind of dirty talks to the pornstars, unless your girlfriend/boyfriend dig a little kinkiness in bed.

"I'm not good enough for you."
We've discussed ho most people admire confidence. So saying this line is just admitting to your partner that you are one big loser who should not even had the chance with them. Besides, no one likes quitters.

"If you really love me, you would..."
Saying saomething that start with these words is just a big no-no. First of all, you are giving them bad signals that you are not the one for them. Second of all, this statement just brags that you are questioning their love towards you. And finally, you are trying to make your partner do something that they really don't want to do, which in many ways tell them that you are a controlling bastard.

"You're just like your mother/father."
People love their parents, but that does not mean that they wanna be like them when they grow up. No matter what you might want to believe, no one would want to be compared to their mother or father because most children's aim in life is to be better than their parents. This statement is just saying that they failed miserably in life because you, of all the people, still thinks that they are just like their parents.

"I'm not in the mood"
Okay, this is not so much for the ladies because let's admit it, there's a double standard when it comes to bed. But for guys to say that they are not in the mood, it's just like a slap in the face of your ladylove because it is not that often that women make the first move when it comes to having sex. So turning them down on those rare situations is just a fight waiting to happen.

"I don't like that..."
No matter how hideous their stuff look to you, never ever tell your partner that you don't like it. You might get away with not complimenting their new shirt, pants or hair style, but trying to tell them that it's not good and you don't like it just gives them the signal to start shouting at you for being insensitive and being an ass.

So there you go, just some of the things you should avoid saying to your partner. And if there are instances that you are not sure what to say, just shut up and don't open your mouth to avoid hurt feelings. Silence is still golden, you know.

The Dating Ten Commandments

Though many say that there are really no clear and standard rules when it comes to dating (we here at Dating 4-1-1 believe so too), there are still somethings we can do to make sure that we have a very healthy and successful dating life. That is why we on this humble site decided to come up with the Dating Ten Commandments. And we came up with these:


1. Thou shall not talk about the exes too much.

Everybody has their own baggage that comes from several past relationships. And these baggages have no place when it comes to trying to impress another person. So just avoid talking too much about past boyfriends or girlfriends to the one your currently dating. Though you may talk about it once in a while, but that is only when you guys have already been together long.

2. Thou shall not frequent your exes.

If you're not allowed to talk about them that much, you are not also allowed to spend too much time with them. As much as you like to stay friends with your exes, this does not look good to the person you are currently dating. Unless you wanna risk being dumped and being along again.

3. Thou shall learn how to compliment.
Learn how to make the other person feel good about themselves. A little pat on the back when they did something nice, especially for you, is not half-bad. Good ol' fashion compliments are never out of style like telling your date they look good.

4. Thou shall not put your partner to the pedestal.

Though most people like the feeling that other people treat them importantly, overdoing it may also kill it. There's nothing wrong with praising and commending things that your partners have done, but never do this in such a way that you are treating them just like they are gods and goddesses. Just try to treat them like normal people. Remember: no one is perfect.

5. Thou shall not be too enthusiastic.

When we say "too enthusiastic," this include people who acts like stalkers. It's alright to be concerned on what your partner is doing at certain moments, but not every time. There's still a thin line between being caring and being too clingy. YOu don't wanna seem too pathetic also.

6. Thou shall not be too serious.

This means that when you think someone is not into you, just give up. They say that quitting is not good, but it is when it comes to dating. Especially when you see that all your efforts are just going down the drain. It'll be easy for both parties to just move on with the next thing and forget all about it.

7. Thou shall not discuss other men/women.

Jealousy the most common perpetrator of broken relationship. So just don't let this green-eyed monster get in between you and the person you are dating. Avoid talking about other people and saying good things about them.

8. Thou shall not let yourself go.

After you've been able to spend some time with someone, that does not mean that you can let your guard down. Well, you can be comfortable around them at a certain point, but not too much. Just don't forget to do stuff that can impress the other person because admit it, dating is always all about survival of the fittest. And once you let your guard down, you are dead meat.

9. Thou shall not rush into things.

Leave the "wanna go out this weekend?" and "wanna meet my parents?" lines at home especially when you are still on the start of a relationship. You are just bringing awkwardness to much greater levels and that will leave you all alone once again.

10. Thou shall not lose faith.

Faith on whom? Well, yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always have yourself to fall back into. And besides, if you don't believe that you can find that one special person, you will not. So just continue on dating and never quit until you meet the right one for you.

Signs That You Should Move On

One important lesson every person should learn about dating: when it seems that things are not working out, it's time to bail out. This is to avoid any more wasted time, money and effort. And of course, hurt feelings. But you're probably asking right now how would you know when to bail out. When is the right time that you should call it quits with the person you're dating just because it won't go anywhere? Is there any signs that can tell you to just quit and move on the next person? Well, there are. And here they are...

Invitation declined. This is a clear sign that a person is not that interested in you. If a person keeps on turning down your offer for a cup of coffee or a dinner, eh or she probably is not into you. Especially if it's already the millionth time you ask and they are still saying no.

No friend introduction. One way to see if a relationship is moving forward is through something called comfort zone. And one perk of being in this zone is getting to meet the other person's friends, if not their family. But if you guys have already gone out for a whole month, without him or her saying anything about meeting their friends, my friend, it's time to bail out. This is especially true in cases that you yourself keep on bugging you partner about doing something with his or her friend but he or she always find a way not to go with it.

Always with friends. This is the exact opposite of the above point. Though meeting your partners friends is good, having them always around like bodyguards during dates and what nots, is also a bad sign. This just goes to show that the person does not want to spend time with you alone and they have no interest in you in any way. But you certainly can be friends.

Talking about other people. If your boyfriend keeps on talking about that hot chick she saw or your girlfriend always telling you how she have this huge crush on a guy at work, just take it as a signal that they are no longer interested in you. This is actually a pretty clear sign, and only pathetic losers, or blind and deaf people, won't get.

Avoiding intimate settings. Okay, you may had the chance to bring the person to a dinner or a movie, but when you tried asking her to go away for the weekend or something more intimate, he or she always find an excuse not to come, better say bye-bye as soon as possible. This just goes to show that the other person is not ready for something deeper and more serious. And if you're the person who wants security, then better bail out when this sign comes up.

No physical contact. This includes hand touching, peck on the chick and other small gestures. If you are not getting these stuff, you probably won't have any chance getting more.

Playing cupid. If the person you're dating keeps on setting you up with other people, that just mean that they are not into you. This is especially true with girls. So guys, if the person you are having an interest to keeps on introducing you to her friend and setting you up on dates, the best thing to do is just go on those dates and forget about her.

No call back. The most blatant sign of all. If the person does not return your call, it's pretty obvious that it's time for goodbye.

This may sound too familiar, but it's true that there are millions of people out there that are probably more suitable to you. Don't waste time and effort on someone who is not really into you. So if you see these signs on the people you are interested on or dating at the moment, it is just about time to bail out and move on to the next thing.

Be A Multilingual Romantic

There is still a bit of a dispute about which is the universal language, music or love. But because this is Dating 4-1-1 and people here are just bunch of hopeless romantic, we would like to believe that it's love. But even though you have this emotion inside you that can drive you to do things you don't normally do with strange people, you still have to break the language barrier especially when you're in a far, far place. So here are just some love phrase, that can help you speak out the language of love no matter what part of the world you're in.

In Spanish

I love you
Te quiero Te amo

Kisses are the unspoken words of love
Siano i baci le parole d'amore che non ti dico

I am in love
Estoy enamorado/ estoy enamorada

I miss you
Te echo de menos

I adore you passionately
Te adoro apasionadamente

I love you with all my heart
Te quiero con todo mi corazón

Love me or I shall die!
¡Quiéreme o me muero!

I can't live without you
No puedo vivir sin ti

I want to be with you forever
Quiero estar contigo para siempre

I love you more than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow
Cada día te quiero más que ayer y menos que mañana
In French

I love You
Je t'aime

I adore you
Je t'adore

You are the joy of my life
Tu es ma joie de vivre

You are my love
Tu es mon mon amour

My love for you is eternal
Mon amour pour toi est éternel

My love for you is as grand as the world
Mon amour pour toi est si grand que le Mond

You are my love
Tu es mon mon amour

Kisses are the unspoken words of love
Que mes baisers soient les mots d'amour que je ne te dis pas

I dream about Your eyes day and night
Tes yeux, j'en reve jour et nuit

I miss you
Tu me manques

In Polish

I love you
Kocham cię

I like you
Lubie cię

People were created because of love and to love
Czlowiek stworzony jest z milości i do milości

Love is a wonder wich can happen again
Milosc to cud, który zawsze może się znów zdarzyć
Don’t talk, just kiss
Milcz i całuj

Love is a happiness
Milość sama w sobie jest szczęściem
You would never love like before
Nie kocha się nigdy jak przedtem

I think about you
Myślę o Tobie

I was dreaming about you last night
Śniłaś mi się tej nocy

I don’t want to lose you
Nie chcę Cię stracić

In Italian

I love you
Ti amo

You are a star...my star
Tu sei una stella...la mia stella

I am falling in love with you
Sto cadendo nell'amore con voi

I can't live without you
Non posso vivere senza voi

My heart is for you
Il mio cuore è per voi

I like you more and more
Gradisco voi di più e più

I love you with all my heart
Ti amo con tutta l'anima

I miss you
Mi manchi

You're my soulmate
Sei la mia anima gemella

I want to spend the rest of my life with you
Voglio passare il resto della mia vita con te

In Japanese

I love you
Watashi wa anata ga suki desu

I need you
Anata ga hitsuyou desu
I miss you
Anata ga inakute samishii

Love needs no teaching
Koi ni shishou nashi

Love makes all men equal
Koi ni jouge no hedate nashi

Love is without reason
Koi wa shian no hoka

Love is blind
Koi wa moumoku

Love becomes deep easily, but cools down soon
Koi wa nesshi yasuku same yasui
You are an angel
Anata wa tenshi no yoo desu
You have beautiful eyes
Kirei-na hitomidane

In Filipino

I love you
Mahal kita

You are dear to me
Mahal ka sa akin

I want to spend the rest of my life with you
Gusto kitang makasama habang buhay
I want to marry you
Gusto na kitang pakasalan

You are an angel
Ikaw ay isang anghel

You are the only one I will love forever
Ikaw lamang ang aking iibigin magpakailanman

I love you truly
Ang pag-ibig ko sa iyo ay tunay
I'll take care of you
Aalagaan kita

I won't neglect you
Hindi kita pababayaan

I'll die without you
Mamamatay ako kung wala ka

There you go. You now have the tools to be a multilingual lover. All we can say here at Dating 4-1-1 is, GO GET THEM TIGER!!!

Be Funny, Get a Date

Humor, to some people, is probably that sixth sense only a chosen few has. And for some people, humor is the most effective way how to communicate with others, especially on those first-meeting instances. That is why humor is such an effective tool in attracting other people, may it be for something platonic or something deeper than friendship. I bet you, especially the guys out there, have had experiences wherein a someone you know includes humor as one of the characteristic they are looking for people they wanna meet. But even though only a selected few are born with this gift, you should not fret because there are ways how to learn this craft. So here are some ways on how you can use humor to your advantage during those times you wanna impress or attract other people.

Create suspense, then go for the kill. By pausing when the other person is trying to ask a serious question, you can manage to create suspense and at the same time, put the other person in a spot where they can be excited. And when they are starting to look like a kid staring at his gift on a Christmas morning, give a smart-ass answer still maintaining that poker-face seriousness. Now you're broken the ice and no more awkwardness to follow.

Use some playful sexual misinterpretation. There are many words and phrases that you can use this tactic with. For example is when your date says "Mmm, you know, I think it might be time to go home," answer by carefully muttering this phrase "I’ve only been talking to you for 15 minutes; I’m not going home with you." Try it, and they will find you adorable.

Mimicry is flattery. Try copying what your date is doing, but in a funny way. This way, you can actually make them ease up and relax because that is what you want for yourself, a hassle-free get-together. Like when you notice her being uncomfortable because she is so rigid when seated, you can pull your shoulder way back, sit up extra straight and then say "I really think you should work on your posture."

Honest, playful swatting. Now this does not mean that you'll go dominatrix on your date. Just pick up something, say a napkin, and playfully hit the other person with it, like when they say something funny. This tells your date that you are already comfortable with them. This also shows them your childish side, which is very attractive to most people.

Joking with compliments. Give you date a compliment, but with a twist. Say you notice their shoes, you can just go "I really think you should work on your posture." This is a guaranteed ball-buster.

Don't back down. If you really wanna use humor as your weapon in attracting people, you should never crack down from the act. As long as you know that you are not getting too annoying, just continue being the funny one unlike you crack your date up. if you quit, it will just show your date that you aren't serious with them. And besides, most people also tend to block funny people at first to see if they are just trying to be funny and not be funny at all.

So there, just some tips to help you realize that being a clown sometimes can give you good points when it comes to dating. But again, remember to just always be yourself as much as possible and avoid being someone you are not. This will definitely show and you don't wanna be caught red-handed while you're at it. Happy dating!

Effective Ways to Attract Women

Though there are lucky bastards out there who seems to have what it takes to always get the ladies, normals guys like us can still manage to snatch the big one for us if we only know what to do. And no, I'm not talking about silly pick-up lines this time. These are just some tips on how to attract the opposite sex for helpless romantic guys out there.

Be a master in communication. Women dig real men, those who are strong, independent and sure of himself - but not too much. That is why a good man should always know how to show these assets to women and the best way to do it is by communicating. Just look at the roster of romantic men in history and you'll see that many of them are guys who know how to use language to their advantage.

Always be certain. A strong guy should always be sure of himself. That is why men should just avoid being a wussbag and always be certain about things he is saying, doing and even thinking. And strong grip can also go along way when trying to impress the ladies.
Avoid being too emotional. Again, strong men attracts the most women. That is why being a crybaby is definitely a no-no when it comes to trying impress them. So avoid reliving your emotional past because you will just sound pathetic in front of the person you are trying to impress.

Know your strength and weaknesses. And just basically work this angle to your advantage to let the ladies see how perfect of a guy you are for them.
Learn how to plan. You've all probably heard women saying that they would rather be with guys who have dreams rather than being stuck with a pathetic low-life like you. Why not stop being a child and grow up and start making plans for your future.

Commit, commit, commit. It may sound scary, but if you're really sure that this is what you want, you guys better learn how to commit to this goal and do whatever you can to achieve it.

So there you go? Just remember that the dating scene out there is one heck of a jungle. That is why you should always know what you're getting into because in relationships, there is simply no turning back.

Worst First Date Location

Okay, you're right. The success of a date, specifically the first date, is all about chemistry, connection and good conversation. Making sure that your date like you and you like them is just about what dates are all about. But sometimes, well actually more often than not, being where are and what you are doing also do big when it comes to having big points on dates. Well, we here at Dating 4-1-1 having given you ideas on where and what to do on your first date. So now, how about we give each and every one of your romantic lovers a warning on where not to be during your first date. Ladies and gentlemen, here are some of the worst date location you people don't wanna be in...

His or her parent's house. Dating, as we all know it, should be done in slow steps toward progression. And meeting the parents is definitely not among those things you wanna do first. So just avoid dates involving you or your date's parents because it is just not the time for that.
A family function. Again, succession and patience is the key. And if either of you don't wanna meet the parents, that also goes with anyone of your relatives. That's why family gatherings, reunions and parties are just no-no's when it comes with the first date. You don't wanna let your date meet your annoying aunts and nephews the same day you are trying to impress him/her, don't you?
A non-traditional restaurant. It's alright to go adventurous when going out on dates. But not to the extent that you'll try eating something that you don't really have clue of what it is. SO just stay away from food joints that serves food that you and your date haven't tried out before. You don't wanna remember your first date by the fact that one of your kept on throwing up or taking trips to the bathroom...

Arcades. Being young is good, even if it's only being young at heart. But being childish? That's a different situation altogether. If you're a teenage boy trying to impress your crush, maybe this is a good idea. But if you're already a grown-up guy who is making your own money already, aside from this date being completely stupid, it will just send signals to your date that you are a cheap bastard.

Fastfood joints. Come on, it's your first date with a person you wanna impress. Taking him/her to a fastfood restaurant like McDonalds or Burger King is just pathetic and way cheap. Why not just take them to Chucky Cheese and forget about that second date?
A hotel or a motel. Unless you're some big-time rockstar, you cannot take your date to your hotel or motel room. Aside from giving them an impression that you are some twisted, horny pervert, it is just not cool having your first date with a total stranger in a room with a bed in it.

Shopping malls. This is a shout out to all the ladies. Not all guys like walking through every stores and bringing your things. In fact, most guys just hates shopping. So don't expect your date to have fun because being your shopping buddy on the first date is just not that fun.

The movies. Well, this is kinda tricky actually. But as we all know, first dates are all about getting to know each other. So how would you guys do that when you're trying to watch some movie for two hours? Ummm... NEVER!

Again, these things are just suggestions and ideas. Just always remember that dating is not a clear science and there are really no strict rules to be followed. Just learn to have fun and appreciate the person you're with, and you're surely not gonna go wrong on any dates.

What to Talk About on That First Date...

Congratulations! You just got yourself a date with that hot chick you were eyeing at the bar. Or you're the the hot chick at the bar and you decided that it's alright to go out on a date with this hunky guy. Both of you decided that you'd rather have dinner together instead of taking too much time thinking what kind of date you should go to. Well, it's okay because the first date really is the time to get to know the person you're going out with to find out if they're worth your time. But of course, you can't just go ahead and order then eat your food as fast as you can so you could go home and watch TV. You have to talk with your date so the two of you can have a chance to know more about each other. Say weigh if you'll really click with each other. So here are just some ideas on what you guys can and cannot talk about on your first date.

Avoid talking about the past. Come on, it's your first date. You still have no right to dig up his/her life story. Especially when it comes to their past relationship. Keep th conversation off from issues about the ex's. It's either you'll just end up hurting your date because of bad memories or you getting pissed because they are still not over their former lovers.

"Got any brothers or sisters". This is one of the safe topics you can talk about. It's not very intrusive when asking your date if they have siblings. In fact, it just goes to show that you are very interested not only with them, but also their family. But remember, avoid asking about parents because this may also brought bad memories if they experienced a divorce or separation in the family.

Ask about the places where your date have been. Talking about past travel destinations, yours and your date's, will be fun. Not to say you'll get to know more about their personality because you'll know what kinds of things they like. This will also give you an idea to what kind of second date you can have, granting this first date goes well.

Talk about career plans. This one is actually tricky. For one, your date might go on and on about their achievement in school and on the job, making your night out more lively. But on the other hand, your date may just become upset because they are not really having good time with their work. Just be sure if the latter happen, you have a escape route or another topic in your head.

Ask about their friends. Many people say that you can judge a person with what kind of friends they have. This is a sure way of knowing your date's personality without being too intrusive and pushy. This way, your date may also think that you are nice for asking about people that are close to her.

"What do you do on your free time?" Another safe way to make sure that your date is opening up to you. If they are comfortable talking about things they do on their free time like going to the movies, shopping, roller blading, that means you're in. And this will also give you an idea for a fun activity you both can enjoy for future dates.

"What kind of music do you listen to?" Find out if you guys have the same taste in music. If you do, good for you. If not, tough luck. But at least you get to know what kind of person your date is because of the music they listen to. If more of the mellow type, then your date the sweet kind of person. But if they like heavy metal and goth, then prepare for more wild and crazy fun with them.

There you have it. These are just some ideas of things you guys can talk about when out on that first date. Just remember once again, that first dates are usually the time you'll get to know the other person a little better. So take advantage of this time and make the best out of it and make sure you are getting as much information about your date as you can. This is kind of the make-or-break part of it all, if you still wanna go for that second date or if you wanna bail. So good luck!

First Date Ideas

Okay, after countless hours with flirting and trying to pickup a date on bars, restaurants, coffee houses and malls, you finally got that elusive date with a person you think would likely become a long-time partner. But now, the big question in mind: What kind of date should you bring him/her to? There are so many activities that you can think of that you two can do together. But be careful, because some of them may actually have you crawling back to your very own loner's cave because you turned off your date. That is why we have here some great ideas for our first date with that lucky heart you have just reeled in. Try these first date ideas to be able to impress your future lover, and at the same time know more about him/her to make sure he/she is no some kind of creep.

Go to an amusement park. Okay, this date might be a bit expensive for the first one. But this way you can show your date that you are no cheap bastard and is willing to shell out some money for him/her. Nice way to impress someone, especially the ladies. Also, when you guys are waiting in line to ride the roller coaster, you can pass time by having a great conversation. This way you get to know more about your date which shows that you are really interested on them. And admit it, there is still that kid inside you who wants the thrill of riding amusement rides.

Attend a fair or a festival. It's a lot of fun being in fairs and festivals. There are tons of activities you guys can try out - from pie eating contest to playing parlor games and riding the ferris wheel. If you're a guy, you can also impress your lady friend by trying to win a stuff toy for her in one of those games where you hit a target or shoot a ball through a hoop. This date will have you showing your sensitive and manly side both at the same time.

Play some kind of sports together. It can be billiards, bowling, badminton or even mini-golf. This way you can impress your date with your baller skills, at the same time still having a meaningful conversation with each other. And there is nothing that can make two people a lot closer by having fun together.

Do something artsy. Why not go to one of those pottery shop where you can paint the pots and vase. This way, you both can enjoy an activity together that you can do while talking and getting to know each other. This way, you can also impress your date by showing your artistic side. This is something both men and women find attractive.

Be one with nature. You guys can go hiking, or even walking along the nearest park. Or maybe go to a zoo, an aquarium or an aviary. While checking out the beauty of the environment and discovering the magical wonder that is Mother Nature, you guys can be closer by having a meaningful conversation to get to know each other better.

So there you go. These are just some ideas for what you guys can do when going out for your first date. You can also come up with something more unique and more fun. Just remember that the key to a nice first date is that you guys should have time to talk to each other to get to know each other. And of course, both of you should have lots of fun.