I bet all of us have been in this situation at least one time in our lives. You were able to get the number of that hot babe or cute hunk over the bar. It was the best moment of your life which boosted your self-worth a couple of steps up. However when you called, things got "weird" and you end up being a babbling buffoon and ended up not seeing them again. Well, we here at Dating 4-1-1 decided to help you out in this department with these helpful tips that will have you turning those digits you scored one night into romantic dates the next. Use these tips to help you in doing it the right way.
1. Conquer your fear
The first problem one can encounter in trying to score a date after getting a telephone number is oneself. This is especially true with guys who always want to be cool about it so they postpone calling the girl a couple of days after they got their number. This then turn into weeks, then months until they finally lose the chance of seeing the hot lady again. All you have to do is just swallow your pride and fear and dial that phone and make that call.
2. Keep it short
If you does manage to get the balls to call them, be sure to be brief and precise. It's a common misconception that people wants to talk long on the phone when it's the first time you do talk. Just set up the date and leave all the talking on that said date. This is because if you talk long, this will just make you a pathetic loser in the eyes of your prospect because you don't have anything more important to do but talk on the phone.
3. End it first
Now this is one secret only a chosen gifted few knows. When having a conversation over the phone, the one who ends the call first wins the interaction. So if you are the one who cuts the conversation short, this gives you power. And if you're a guy, this will show girl that you are a man of confidence and dignity. And what else are women looking for in a guy but those two things.
4. Limit the time frame
When you agree on a date, be SPECIFIC about what you are going to do and how long you'll be together. You can say something like, “Let's meet at Tom's on Thursday at 8:00 p.m. for 20 minutes or so and have a quick drink." This way you won't scare off your date. When you set up a short time frame for the meeting, you avoid expectations. You won’t be forced to spend time with someone you aren’t into.
5. Dealing with voicemail
If you're afraid of leaving a message on their machine, you may have just lost another date because most people have it and use it to screen their calls, especially if they are so used to giving their numbers to strangers like you. That is why it is important for you to learn how to leave a voicemail for them. Keep the message short and sweet. Remind them who you are but don't give too much details. Just tell them where and when you met and a little background about you. Simple and to the point is always the best. If they don't call you back, just give it some time and try again. If you don't get a call after that, just move on. Don't act like a stalker. And if they do call back, good for you. This is when you use the other tips.
6. Be spontaneous and be yourself
This is probably the most overused cliche for dating but it is still the best tip you can get. Pretending to be another person is not cool when it comes to dating, whichever medium you're trying it on.
If the phone continues to be an obstacle for you, it’s probably because you aren’t creating enough attraction when you first meet. Luckily, this is a fairly easy fix as well, by just trying these tips to become the Casanova that you ally are.
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Monday, June 30, 2008
Original Date Ideas
Originality, most people believe, is one important factor when part of the dating game. That is why it is important to set yourself apart from all the rest when it comes to going out for the night. So here are just some original date ideas that you cana take your prospect to to make sure they will remember not just the date, but also you.
Action-packed
To ensure a fun-filled date for both you and your date, you should take them to a place where there are a lot of things going on. A good example would be an outdoor mall where there are funky shops and street performers. This way, you get to save some cash because the entertainment is built right into the experience, at the same time, you can have quality time of talking and getting to know each other while strolling around.
Night Walk
This is much like the first date idea, but put it in a night setting. This can be more romantic if you just know what to do. Enjoy the night breeze and the sparkles of the stars, and make the dark your only witness for your awesome night out.
Shopping Galore
This is actually a bit tricky. Yes, both of you can certainly have a great time and have some clean fun. This is as long as you have a limit to your spending and not be their sugar mommy or sugar daddy who'll buy everything they want. And cute idea is also trying to have your date pick out something for you that you can use, maybe the next time you go out again.
Park Playtime
Bring the inner kid inside of you and your date by going to the nearest park and hang out by the playground. Swing on the swings, hop on the see-saw and ride the merry-go-round - these just spells fun all over the place.
Dog Walking
This is specially good if you are a guy trying to impress a girl. Everybody knows that girls love animals. So with this date, you get to show her your soft side by walking her dog with her. Or maybe our dog. Or your neighbor's dog. Doesn't really matter.
Be a Teacher
Teach your date something. It can be any activity under the sun. Cooking, pottery, surfing, boxing, basketball, knitting - you name it. As long as you too get a chance to bond and get to know each other, it's fine in the books.
Bike Ride
Just like walking, but a faster pace. To make this date work even better, make sure you know your route well and there are good places there where you can take a quick break. A coffee shop or a juice bar are just a couple of good ideas.
Late-night Dip
If you're feeling a bit adventurous and mischievous, why not try going for a night swim. Nothing is more fun and relaxing than being refresh by cold pool water, or even from a lake. Not only will the two of your have fun, you'll also get to see your date in a bikini or trunks.
There you have it, just some tips on how you can make your date a bit more memorable for you and your partner. These tried-and-tested date ideas will definitely have you scheduling another night out, as long as you don't act creepy.
Action-packed
To ensure a fun-filled date for both you and your date, you should take them to a place where there are a lot of things going on. A good example would be an outdoor mall where there are funky shops and street performers. This way, you get to save some cash because the entertainment is built right into the experience, at the same time, you can have quality time of talking and getting to know each other while strolling around.
Night Walk
This is much like the first date idea, but put it in a night setting. This can be more romantic if you just know what to do. Enjoy the night breeze and the sparkles of the stars, and make the dark your only witness for your awesome night out.
Shopping Galore
This is actually a bit tricky. Yes, both of you can certainly have a great time and have some clean fun. This is as long as you have a limit to your spending and not be their sugar mommy or sugar daddy who'll buy everything they want. And cute idea is also trying to have your date pick out something for you that you can use, maybe the next time you go out again.
Park Playtime
Bring the inner kid inside of you and your date by going to the nearest park and hang out by the playground. Swing on the swings, hop on the see-saw and ride the merry-go-round - these just spells fun all over the place.
Dog Walking
This is specially good if you are a guy trying to impress a girl. Everybody knows that girls love animals. So with this date, you get to show her your soft side by walking her dog with her. Or maybe our dog. Or your neighbor's dog. Doesn't really matter.
Be a Teacher
Teach your date something. It can be any activity under the sun. Cooking, pottery, surfing, boxing, basketball, knitting - you name it. As long as you too get a chance to bond and get to know each other, it's fine in the books.
Bike Ride
Just like walking, but a faster pace. To make this date work even better, make sure you know your route well and there are good places there where you can take a quick break. A coffee shop or a juice bar are just a couple of good ideas.
Late-night Dip
If you're feeling a bit adventurous and mischievous, why not try going for a night swim. Nothing is more fun and relaxing than being refresh by cold pool water, or even from a lake. Not only will the two of your have fun, you'll also get to see your date in a bikini or trunks.
There you have it, just some tips on how you can make your date a bit more memorable for you and your partner. These tried-and-tested date ideas will definitely have you scheduling another night out, as long as you don't act creepy.
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Sunday, June 22, 2008
Dance Your Way to Their Hearts, But Not With These Moves
One good idea for a date to make it extra special is by going into a club and go dancing. This is specially good for people who knows how to bust a move. But for some who have two left legs, it's still okay as long as you know what you are doing. You are having fun with you date, at the same time burning some unwanted calories to have you looking better. But most of us are scared to go to the dance floor and get embarrassed. But we here at Dating 4-1-1 have just some tips on what dance steps you should avoid to at least minimize the damage. You don't have to be a talented dancer to impress you date, as long as you don't dance your way to their hearts with these killer (literally) moves.
1. The Moonwalk
Though this dance step was popular back in the 80's, just like Michael Jackson who perfected The Moonwalk, this one is so out. It may have lost it magical charisma on people at the same time Jacko started having problems with all those lawsuits. Unless you are some astronaut, don't be caught performing this move because you are a couple of steps from being the laughing stock of the crowd.
2. The Achy Breakey Line Dance
Admit it, you have performed this dance routine at least once in your life. But unfortunately, even if vintage stuffs and revivals are the thing today, there are just some things that should be left buried at the back of our heads. If you even so much try that first step for this dance, it's like having zombies walking the planet because no one definitely wants to see this redneck trend.
3. The Back Spin
Unless you're a 13-year old boy or a professional B-boy posse, you should never ever try to do this dance move. For once, this is not really the move when you are in a club trying to impress your date. Secondly, this move really didn't caught on during its time so don't even think of reviving it. And lastly, this dance move will definitely have you visiting your chiropractor.
4. Hammer Time
There are several reasons why MC Hammer is not in the music scene anymore, probably becoming one of the biggest one-hit-wonder of all-time, if not the biggest. And this dance move is one of those reasons. You getting caught doing this move is equivalent to admitting that you are one of this one-time rapping sensation's undying fan. And besides, it's hard to do this move if you are not wearing one of those oversized and and overly baggy pants.
5. The Ickey shuffle
Named after its inventor, Ickey Woods who was a running back for the Cincinnati Bengals, this dance move caught on as one of the most popular touchdown dances in the history of the sports. However, The Ickey Shuffle is best left on the gridiron being performed by football giants that are overly-charged with testosterone.
6. The Sprinkler
It's understandable to imitate moves popularized by pop stars such as Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears, even Madonna. But for crying out loud, don't even try a move that got its hype during the Stone Age, just like The Sprinker. It's so old, your grandparents may have used it to impress each other.
7. Raise the Roof
Just like the Ickey Shuffle, this dance move should also be left for athletes, this time to basketball players. And besides, this dance move didn't even get popular back in the days so don't even try putting it back to the limelight.
8. The Butter Churner
A dance move is lame if it involves mimicking actions of Amish, probably one of the most boring people you can ever meet. This monotonous maneuver is just clockwise movements of the arms, much like when you are churning butter. For that reason alone, people should just leave this move to the Pennsylvania Dutch.
9. The Dice Shaker
There are so many God-forsaken dance moves out there that are just cheesy simulated everyday moves. From Fishing Pole to Milking the Cow, and don't forget The Butter Churner, the world is just being plagued with insane dance steps. But nothing compared to the Dice Shaker. Unless you are some addicted gambler who can't stop your arms from flailing about, this one should not be introduced to the dance floor.
10. The Running Man
The mother ship have landed. This is probably the most annoying dance move anyone can ever do, which involves, well, just running. This may have been the hippest and hoppest hip hop move back in the days, but this one definitely died together with that eras so-called icons like MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice. It's coffin was sealed when a 60-year old First Lady in the form of Laura Bush performed it in front of a huge crowd. So basically, don't do it!
There you go, just some dance moves you should stay away from to assure that your night of dancing with your lover goes on smooth with no forms of embarrassment, for you and them. It doesn't matter if you don't really know how to dance, as long as you move on the dance floor and not do these lousy and lame steps.
1. The Moonwalk
Though this dance step was popular back in the 80's, just like Michael Jackson who perfected The Moonwalk, this one is so out. It may have lost it magical charisma on people at the same time Jacko started having problems with all those lawsuits. Unless you are some astronaut, don't be caught performing this move because you are a couple of steps from being the laughing stock of the crowd.
2. The Achy Breakey Line Dance
Admit it, you have performed this dance routine at least once in your life. But unfortunately, even if vintage stuffs and revivals are the thing today, there are just some things that should be left buried at the back of our heads. If you even so much try that first step for this dance, it's like having zombies walking the planet because no one definitely wants to see this redneck trend.
3. The Back Spin
Unless you're a 13-year old boy or a professional B-boy posse, you should never ever try to do this dance move. For once, this is not really the move when you are in a club trying to impress your date. Secondly, this move really didn't caught on during its time so don't even think of reviving it. And lastly, this dance move will definitely have you visiting your chiropractor.
4. Hammer Time
There are several reasons why MC Hammer is not in the music scene anymore, probably becoming one of the biggest one-hit-wonder of all-time, if not the biggest. And this dance move is one of those reasons. You getting caught doing this move is equivalent to admitting that you are one of this one-time rapping sensation's undying fan. And besides, it's hard to do this move if you are not wearing one of those oversized and and overly baggy pants.
5. The Ickey shuffle
Named after its inventor, Ickey Woods who was a running back for the Cincinnati Bengals, this dance move caught on as one of the most popular touchdown dances in the history of the sports. However, The Ickey Shuffle is best left on the gridiron being performed by football giants that are overly-charged with testosterone.
6. The Sprinkler
It's understandable to imitate moves popularized by pop stars such as Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears, even Madonna. But for crying out loud, don't even try a move that got its hype during the Stone Age, just like The Sprinker. It's so old, your grandparents may have used it to impress each other.
7. Raise the Roof
Just like the Ickey Shuffle, this dance move should also be left for athletes, this time to basketball players. And besides, this dance move didn't even get popular back in the days so don't even try putting it back to the limelight.
8. The Butter Churner
A dance move is lame if it involves mimicking actions of Amish, probably one of the most boring people you can ever meet. This monotonous maneuver is just clockwise movements of the arms, much like when you are churning butter. For that reason alone, people should just leave this move to the Pennsylvania Dutch.
9. The Dice Shaker
There are so many God-forsaken dance moves out there that are just cheesy simulated everyday moves. From Fishing Pole to Milking the Cow, and don't forget The Butter Churner, the world is just being plagued with insane dance steps. But nothing compared to the Dice Shaker. Unless you are some addicted gambler who can't stop your arms from flailing about, this one should not be introduced to the dance floor.
10. The Running Man
The mother ship have landed. This is probably the most annoying dance move anyone can ever do, which involves, well, just running. This may have been the hippest and hoppest hip hop move back in the days, but this one definitely died together with that eras so-called icons like MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice. It's coffin was sealed when a 60-year old First Lady in the form of Laura Bush performed it in front of a huge crowd. So basically, don't do it!
There you go, just some dance moves you should stay away from to assure that your night of dancing with your lover goes on smooth with no forms of embarrassment, for you and them. It doesn't matter if you don't really know how to dance, as long as you move on the dance floor and not do these lousy and lame steps.
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Tuesday, June 10, 2008
You've Been Single Way Too Long Because...
Being single is great. You can do whatever you want, whenever, wherever and how you want it. You can come and go as you please. And you don't have to answer to anyone. But however great it may sound, being single is equal to being alone. And being alone your whole life is just not that cool. Being single is tantamount to being sad, lonely and, yes, celibate. So you better stand up from where you are sitting and go to the nearby bar and get yourself a drink. And maybe get yourself a pretty little girl or a hunky, handsome guy who will be willing to go out on a date with you and change your very lonesome life. You have just been single way too long because you...
...assume that you repulse women.
This is not good. Because confidence is one of the best weapon anyone can have in this dog-eat-dog world. And if you have become a single for too long, there is a tendency for you to lose your confidence that you can attract other people. Most people will take a smile or a prolonged glance as a good thing, but not for long-time singles. They have the tendency to take this as people making fun of them and judging them.
...develop bad eating habits.
Because you're always along with nothing to do, you tend to be hungry all the time and craving for food you really don't have to it. Imagine yourself being someone who have just been dumped by your partner, and put that in a time line that extend for years. Junk foods like ice cream and chips are your only friends.
...become too emotional.
Simple questions from friends and colleagues like "How are you doin'?" are answered with long, emotional dramatics of your single life. This is especially true for men who are known not to become too emotional. If you just keep on crying and being a baby about your sad life, better going out more.
...develop poor dating standards.
Okay, so you decide to get up off your butt and go out to find someone out there. But when you reached the bar, you find just about every single person there as attractive even though they are not. This is just a sign that you have been alone for too long because your judgment of other people is starting to plummet. Especially if you're the kind of person who used to be a choosy when it comes to people you go out on dates with.
...get a pet.
You have been single too long, you are always sad and alone. So you think that going to the pet store to get a dog or a cat will solve it. When this happen, back away for a second and think. Do you wanna be that old lady next door with bunch of cats and no other friends? Definitely no!
...surf the Internet to meet people.
Okay, so online dating is a legitimate way to find a date. With this entry, we are actually talking about those mail-order bride sites. If you're a guy and you start surfing these sites "just out of curiosty," there is something wrong with you and you better start assessing the situation before you do something drastic and stupid.
...look at friends as possible lovers.
This is just sad. There's a reason why they are your friends. So you better not scare them off because that boat have already sailed. Just don't be insistent enough to believe that your pals are going to be more than just that. Hey, you may just end up losing friends when you become stubborn.
...play too many video games.
There's a reason why geeks and nerds don't get the ladies. That is because they are too busy with all their science stuff and video games. And if you start engaging in activities like them, well you are becoming one of them because you've been alone for way too long.
...ask your mom for dating advice.
This is probably the last resort for you, especially if you're a guy. You've been single for so long that you are willing to take that awkward step to ask your mother about relationship. Though they may know what's best for you in most situation, parents should just be left at the dark when it comes to people you are trying to get to bed.
...Google for old your exes.
They've already left you. Or you left them. And there is a reason for this. So if you start looking for them once again, or worst, check up on them, it just means that you have become too desperate because you've been alone too long.
What the hell are you waiting for? If you have at least one of these things, then you better get up from that couch. Stop being sad and lonely and start going out more. You definitely need a drastic change with your social life and you better start going on dates before you become a sad middle-aged loner.
...assume that you repulse women.
This is not good. Because confidence is one of the best weapon anyone can have in this dog-eat-dog world. And if you have become a single for too long, there is a tendency for you to lose your confidence that you can attract other people. Most people will take a smile or a prolonged glance as a good thing, but not for long-time singles. They have the tendency to take this as people making fun of them and judging them.
...develop bad eating habits.
Because you're always along with nothing to do, you tend to be hungry all the time and craving for food you really don't have to it. Imagine yourself being someone who have just been dumped by your partner, and put that in a time line that extend for years. Junk foods like ice cream and chips are your only friends.
...become too emotional.
Simple questions from friends and colleagues like "How are you doin'?" are answered with long, emotional dramatics of your single life. This is especially true for men who are known not to become too emotional. If you just keep on crying and being a baby about your sad life, better going out more.
...develop poor dating standards.
Okay, so you decide to get up off your butt and go out to find someone out there. But when you reached the bar, you find just about every single person there as attractive even though they are not. This is just a sign that you have been alone for too long because your judgment of other people is starting to plummet. Especially if you're the kind of person who used to be a choosy when it comes to people you go out on dates with.
...get a pet.
You have been single too long, you are always sad and alone. So you think that going to the pet store to get a dog or a cat will solve it. When this happen, back away for a second and think. Do you wanna be that old lady next door with bunch of cats and no other friends? Definitely no!
...surf the Internet to meet people.
Okay, so online dating is a legitimate way to find a date. With this entry, we are actually talking about those mail-order bride sites. If you're a guy and you start surfing these sites "just out of curiosty," there is something wrong with you and you better start assessing the situation before you do something drastic and stupid.
...look at friends as possible lovers.
This is just sad. There's a reason why they are your friends. So you better not scare them off because that boat have already sailed. Just don't be insistent enough to believe that your pals are going to be more than just that. Hey, you may just end up losing friends when you become stubborn.
...play too many video games.
There's a reason why geeks and nerds don't get the ladies. That is because they are too busy with all their science stuff and video games. And if you start engaging in activities like them, well you are becoming one of them because you've been alone for way too long.
...ask your mom for dating advice.
This is probably the last resort for you, especially if you're a guy. You've been single for so long that you are willing to take that awkward step to ask your mother about relationship. Though they may know what's best for you in most situation, parents should just be left at the dark when it comes to people you are trying to get to bed.
...Google for old your exes.
They've already left you. Or you left them. And there is a reason for this. So if you start looking for them once again, or worst, check up on them, it just means that you have become too desperate because you've been alone too long.
What the hell are you waiting for? If you have at least one of these things, then you better get up from that couch. Stop being sad and lonely and start going out more. You definitely need a drastic change with your social life and you better start going on dates before you become a sad middle-aged loner.
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Monday, June 9, 2008
Signs That You Are Getting Lucky
One of the most complicated factors when it come to the dating game is whether the other person is interested, especially the more serious part of the relationship, the sexual. It is very easy to misinterpret a mere act of kindness as sexual interest so everybody should be careful not to quick to assume, or else you're goal will just slip away that easily too. So deciphering their gestures, language and movement is very well important in this stage to know when you really are going to get lucky. So we here at Dating 4-1-1 decided to just help you guys out to avoid any more confusions so you'll know when to make THAT move. So here are some signs that may indicate that you are going to get some.
Drinks for everyone
If the person offers to buy you a drink or already bought one for you, it is a clear indication that they are pretty interested in you. This also shows, if the person is a woman, that she is a confident and strong type of lady who knows what she wants. So if she's giving you this invitation, take it before she change her mind.
Touchy feelings
Body language is a key in knowing if a person is interested in you, especially to know if they are willing to go to the physical. So if your date keeps on touching you affectionately on the arms or the legs in the midst of a conversation, chances are they are also trying to tell you that they want you to do the same with them later on. This is also true if they let you touch them and feel you up.
Compliments, compliments, compliments...
Women are not the only ones who like being praised and commended. Men too like getting their egos fed, especially by women. That is why is your date keeps on complimenting your looks, the way you dress and the smell of your cologne, they are definitely looking for something more later on in the night that will let you show them that you like what they were saying about you.
Eye contacts
If your date maintains prolonged eye contacts, those lasting more than 5 seconds with you during your conversation, this just shows that they have extra interest in you and is not afraid to explore on these feelings later on.
Lean in, lean out
Most people maintain their personal space when they are talking to people they don't really like. But the opposite is true for people who is showing interest to another person. So if your date keeps on leaning towards you when you guys are talking, this just means that they definitely wanna get closer.
Sharing privates
Okay, not that private yet. But you're definitely getting closer if your date is already comfortable in sharing private information to you. So if you find yourself engaging in more a personal talk with your date, it is probably time to make your move to be a bit more personal with them too.
Talking dirty
There is no clearer sign that you are getting lucky if your date starts talking about sexual stuff with you. This just means that you are over that vanilla-boundary and ready to explore each other a little bit better. So don't let the moment pass you and reciprocate. If you did it right, you'll probably end up in the right side of the bed.
Okay, so there is really no scientific formula to help daters predict how their night out will end up. But if you only take time to be aware of the small details such as these stated above, you can at least be sure that your rating when it comes to "scoring" will go up a notch higher.
Drinks for everyone
If the person offers to buy you a drink or already bought one for you, it is a clear indication that they are pretty interested in you. This also shows, if the person is a woman, that she is a confident and strong type of lady who knows what she wants. So if she's giving you this invitation, take it before she change her mind.
Touchy feelings
Body language is a key in knowing if a person is interested in you, especially to know if they are willing to go to the physical. So if your date keeps on touching you affectionately on the arms or the legs in the midst of a conversation, chances are they are also trying to tell you that they want you to do the same with them later on. This is also true if they let you touch them and feel you up.
Compliments, compliments, compliments...
Women are not the only ones who like being praised and commended. Men too like getting their egos fed, especially by women. That is why is your date keeps on complimenting your looks, the way you dress and the smell of your cologne, they are definitely looking for something more later on in the night that will let you show them that you like what they were saying about you.
Eye contacts
If your date maintains prolonged eye contacts, those lasting more than 5 seconds with you during your conversation, this just shows that they have extra interest in you and is not afraid to explore on these feelings later on.
Lean in, lean out
Most people maintain their personal space when they are talking to people they don't really like. But the opposite is true for people who is showing interest to another person. So if your date keeps on leaning towards you when you guys are talking, this just means that they definitely wanna get closer.
Sharing privates
Okay, not that private yet. But you're definitely getting closer if your date is already comfortable in sharing private information to you. So if you find yourself engaging in more a personal talk with your date, it is probably time to make your move to be a bit more personal with them too.
Talking dirty
There is no clearer sign that you are getting lucky if your date starts talking about sexual stuff with you. This just means that you are over that vanilla-boundary and ready to explore each other a little bit better. So don't let the moment pass you and reciprocate. If you did it right, you'll probably end up in the right side of the bed.
Okay, so there is really no scientific formula to help daters predict how their night out will end up. But if you only take time to be aware of the small details such as these stated above, you can at least be sure that your rating when it comes to "scoring" will go up a notch higher.
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Thursday, June 5, 2008
How to Approach Prospective Dates Properly
I know, we are probably taking a step back here discussing this topic. But this is to be fair for those who are still on the lookout for their special someone. Come one, we've all been there. We've become intimidated by other people whom we like that made it very hard for us to talk to them, much less approach them properly. So these are just some tips that you guys should know so you can come up to that pretty lady or hunk guy with all the confidence you'll need to ask them out for a date.
Recognize when they're receptive or not
It's very important to know the signs of whether other people will entertain you once you approach them. Knowing when they are open and ready to engage in some social activities is fundamental so you don't need to waste time for people who won't even let you speak. If they are looking at you and are making eye contact, this is your chance to make your move and introduce yourself.
Keep your fear to yourself
Though being shy around other people may be cute for some, this is certainly not true when you wanna have some good time with them. So you better know your fears and keep it at a minimum when you're out for the night. Confidence is the key so throw away your shyness and be bold when approaching that man/woman you are starting to like.
Avoid hesitation moves
Just like in basketball, you should just always aim for your goal. If you think that you are going to score, just go for it. No time for hesitation because you might just miss your chance in landing a date with that pretty lady or cute guy at the bar.
Keep your cool
No one is perfect. It's a cliche, true. But there is definitely some meaning in it. So if ever you make a boo-boo while talking to that person you wanna go out with, don't panic. Just continue with what you are saying or doing and just forget about the mistake. Remember, you will not get your chance if you lose your cool. You'll just end up screwing yourself over because you kept on thinking that you are already out of the game.
Never seek their approval
Though it may seem nice to have them agree on everything you're saying and doing, this is not a requirement. If they think you're wrong, so what? Just continue and never lose your confidence. People tend to challenge people who are trying to approach them. So don't break and just show them you are one tough person.
Try different attitudes for your approaches
Be creative. Be witty. Be confident, Be casual. Be serious. Be funny. Just don't stick to one style so you can gauge whether one is more effective than the others. This way, you'll also know which suits best for different people.
So there you go! Again, let me remind you that these are not clear standards that you can use to guarantee you a date. These are just mere suggestions that can help you make your dating life easier. The best way to approach dating is still by being yourself and doing everything you think is right.
Recognize when they're receptive or not
It's very important to know the signs of whether other people will entertain you once you approach them. Knowing when they are open and ready to engage in some social activities is fundamental so you don't need to waste time for people who won't even let you speak. If they are looking at you and are making eye contact, this is your chance to make your move and introduce yourself.
Keep your fear to yourself
Though being shy around other people may be cute for some, this is certainly not true when you wanna have some good time with them. So you better know your fears and keep it at a minimum when you're out for the night. Confidence is the key so throw away your shyness and be bold when approaching that man/woman you are starting to like.
Avoid hesitation moves
Just like in basketball, you should just always aim for your goal. If you think that you are going to score, just go for it. No time for hesitation because you might just miss your chance in landing a date with that pretty lady or cute guy at the bar.
Keep your cool
No one is perfect. It's a cliche, true. But there is definitely some meaning in it. So if ever you make a boo-boo while talking to that person you wanna go out with, don't panic. Just continue with what you are saying or doing and just forget about the mistake. Remember, you will not get your chance if you lose your cool. You'll just end up screwing yourself over because you kept on thinking that you are already out of the game.
Never seek their approval
Though it may seem nice to have them agree on everything you're saying and doing, this is not a requirement. If they think you're wrong, so what? Just continue and never lose your confidence. People tend to challenge people who are trying to approach them. So don't break and just show them you are one tough person.
Try different attitudes for your approaches
Be creative. Be witty. Be confident, Be casual. Be serious. Be funny. Just don't stick to one style so you can gauge whether one is more effective than the others. This way, you'll also know which suits best for different people.
So there you go! Again, let me remind you that these are not clear standards that you can use to guarantee you a date. These are just mere suggestions that can help you make your dating life easier. The best way to approach dating is still by being yourself and doing everything you think is right.
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Sunday, May 4, 2008
Most Common Date Mishaps, and How to Avoid Them
Dating is hard work, we all know that. That is why all of us just needs every little help we could get, especially when it comes to not being a complete idiot when out on a nice night-out with a beautiful lady or a handsome bloke. But as much as we planned everything that will happen during a romantic dinner date, there are still thing that could go wrong. Maybe it's because the dating gods and goddesses just wanna test us or just wanna have fun in our expense. But no matter what it is, we should always handle every situation like seasoned veteran so we don't make fools of ourselves in front of the people we so badly want to impress. So here are just some date mishaps that could happen and ways you can get out of them.
1. The Spray. The saying "Say it, don't spray it" pretty much is always the rule when you are out on a date. But we all know that it can happen to anyone, even the most classy and poised individual out there. So when this happen, casually wipe the area where the "rain" fell. If in case there are bits of food that was part of the "downfall," pick them up without your date noticing it. But if it's too noticeable already, just laugh and shrug the situation and don't make a big deal out of it. You can apologize for it, but not too much.
2. The Whole Tooth. You're eating and you just can't stop enjoying the delicious food, especially you are with someone you like so much. And all of a sudden, your date tells you that you have something stuck between your teeth. It could be poppy seeds, lettuce, meat or spinach, but you can still get away with your dignity even after a mishap like this. Just smile and excuse yourself so you can remove it. Just don't do it in front of your date and you're all good. Just get up and go to the bathroom and clean your teeth there.
3. The Spaz. This situation is a bit tricky. Because you are on dinner and eating some food, probably something with sauce can spill, or maybe wine, there is always an instance that it will spill on you. So if this happen, act out innocent but just smiling and maybe saying "whoops!" This way, your date may actually find you cute. But of course after that, you need to clean up the mess by using a napkin to wipe out the damaged area. If ever you need more time with it, just excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and do the scrubbing there. Just don't take too long of a time.
4. The Drop Out. Food are not the only thing that can fall down. Utensils may also end up leaving the table and down on the floor. If this happen, don't you pick that spoon or fork up. Instead, call a waiter and tell him what happened. He'll be the one who'll take care of your dilemma by handing you another utensil.
5. The Food Face. Delicious food, nice ambiance and a romantic set-up - you will surely get carried away with eating so food may end up in your face. So if that happens, just wipe it off gently. If in case it is your date you noticed it and told you about it, just smile or laugh a little, wipe that food off your face and say thank you. Just don't make a big deal about it and go on with your wonderful date.
So there you go. A list of some of the most common date mishaps. They may be little and simple by nature, but they can really ruin a date when not handled very gracefully and carefully. Just follow these simple advice and you're on your way to that elusive next date.
1. The Spray. The saying "Say it, don't spray it" pretty much is always the rule when you are out on a date. But we all know that it can happen to anyone, even the most classy and poised individual out there. So when this happen, casually wipe the area where the "rain" fell. If in case there are bits of food that was part of the "downfall," pick them up without your date noticing it. But if it's too noticeable already, just laugh and shrug the situation and don't make a big deal out of it. You can apologize for it, but not too much.
2. The Whole Tooth. You're eating and you just can't stop enjoying the delicious food, especially you are with someone you like so much. And all of a sudden, your date tells you that you have something stuck between your teeth. It could be poppy seeds, lettuce, meat or spinach, but you can still get away with your dignity even after a mishap like this. Just smile and excuse yourself so you can remove it. Just don't do it in front of your date and you're all good. Just get up and go to the bathroom and clean your teeth there.
3. The Spaz. This situation is a bit tricky. Because you are on dinner and eating some food, probably something with sauce can spill, or maybe wine, there is always an instance that it will spill on you. So if this happen, act out innocent but just smiling and maybe saying "whoops!" This way, your date may actually find you cute. But of course after that, you need to clean up the mess by using a napkin to wipe out the damaged area. If ever you need more time with it, just excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and do the scrubbing there. Just don't take too long of a time.
4. The Drop Out. Food are not the only thing that can fall down. Utensils may also end up leaving the table and down on the floor. If this happen, don't you pick that spoon or fork up. Instead, call a waiter and tell him what happened. He'll be the one who'll take care of your dilemma by handing you another utensil.
5. The Food Face. Delicious food, nice ambiance and a romantic set-up - you will surely get carried away with eating so food may end up in your face. So if that happens, just wipe it off gently. If in case it is your date you noticed it and told you about it, just smile or laugh a little, wipe that food off your face and say thank you. Just don't make a big deal about it and go on with your wonderful date.
So there you go. A list of some of the most common date mishaps. They may be little and simple by nature, but they can really ruin a date when not handled very gracefully and carefully. Just follow these simple advice and you're on your way to that elusive next date.
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Thursday, April 24, 2008
Top 10 Best Pick-up Lines
I just really enjoyed writing my post about the "Top 10 Worst Pick-up Lines," and I hope you guys also enjoyed reading it. Anyway, that's why I thought of doing a follow-up on that post, but this time, listing what I think is the "Top 10 Best Pick-up Lines." I certainly hope that this will be as fun as the other post.
As I've said, pick-up lines, no matter what negative reputation they have, are still very important when it comes to dating and flirting and basically, meting people. These lines, may they be cheesy and corny, are what we, especially men, rely on when starting a conversation with the woman they see on a bar and like. Pick-up lines, I'd like to believe, are the gateway on which a good relationship starts. But I also think that they serve as that thin line between a romantic night between possible lovers or a disastrous, nasty, awkward and embarrassing mess. What kind of words that comes out one's mouth can actually make or break a dating chance and a chance for, well, love. So here you go, here are just some of the pick-up lines that I find romantic that have a bigger chance of working on anyone out there. You may try using them, but I warn you: Use them at your own risk!
10. "Who's your friend?"
Simple but very risky. You are putting up your chance by trying to shift the attention to the person he or she is with. But if he or she replies, you're in because hey, he/she is talking to you already. You have his/her attention and that's what you want.
9. "What's your name?"
Okay, this time the person you like is the center of your attention, or at least you'll have them believe that. With this line, there is surely no room for embarrassment. If the person gives his/her name to you, then you're in. If they don't, doesn't matter. They will just not talk to you and you just walk away with your dignity.
8. "Tell me something. Did it hurt when you fell out of heaven?"
Flattery is the best tool, especially on picking up girls. This might not work that well for men, but still, it;s worth a try. Telling the person this just shows them that you think of them as angels. And c'mon, what can be better than being considered an angel?
7. "You dropped something, my jaw!"
This is you saying that the person is hot. And you have the hots for her. Clever, sweet and cute...
6. "Are you tired? 'Cause you've been running through my mind all day."
Just be careful with this one, because you might some off as some insane lunatic. But if it works, you'll definitely get some good loving because you have just manage to tell the person you are eyeing that you will make them the most important person in the world.
5. "When God made you, He was showing off!"
Another clever and witty way to tell the person that he/she looks good. This one will definitely work best if the person you are going after is also religious.
4. "I may not be the best-looking guy in here, but I'm the only one talking to you."
Using this line, you might wanna think first because you need to look at least decent before these words leave your mouth. If you're a good-looking person, this just shows that you are being modest. And women like non-arrogant SOBs. But if you are ugly, using this line is just broadcasting how pathetic and insecure you are.
3. "See my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I'm cute."
Another way of showing the person you're into that you are not some airhead whose looks is the only important thing in the world. You might also follow this one with something like, "I just can't believe that they always say yes..."
2. "So what haven't you been told tonight?"
Very original, and this one will make you stand out from all the other jerks who tried hitting on that person. You acknowledge their being attractive, while sympathizing with their frustration with those other pathetic losers. You also showed that your are confident and interested enough to try it with them.
1. "I made a bet with myself that you have wonderful eyes. Guess what? I won."
Sweet, cute, smart, witty, romantic. Anything you would wanna hear another person say to you. So why not try it to get the person you like.
So there you go? My Top 10 Best Pick-up Line. Again, use them at your own risk. Well, dating basically that: taking your risk for the person you like. So one day, you can go off to some romantic place and live happily ever after.
As I've said, pick-up lines, no matter what negative reputation they have, are still very important when it comes to dating and flirting and basically, meting people. These lines, may they be cheesy and corny, are what we, especially men, rely on when starting a conversation with the woman they see on a bar and like. Pick-up lines, I'd like to believe, are the gateway on which a good relationship starts. But I also think that they serve as that thin line between a romantic night between possible lovers or a disastrous, nasty, awkward and embarrassing mess. What kind of words that comes out one's mouth can actually make or break a dating chance and a chance for, well, love. So here you go, here are just some of the pick-up lines that I find romantic that have a bigger chance of working on anyone out there. You may try using them, but I warn you: Use them at your own risk!
10. "Who's your friend?"
Simple but very risky. You are putting up your chance by trying to shift the attention to the person he or she is with. But if he or she replies, you're in because hey, he/she is talking to you already. You have his/her attention and that's what you want.
9. "What's your name?"
Okay, this time the person you like is the center of your attention, or at least you'll have them believe that. With this line, there is surely no room for embarrassment. If the person gives his/her name to you, then you're in. If they don't, doesn't matter. They will just not talk to you and you just walk away with your dignity.
8. "Tell me something. Did it hurt when you fell out of heaven?"
Flattery is the best tool, especially on picking up girls. This might not work that well for men, but still, it;s worth a try. Telling the person this just shows them that you think of them as angels. And c'mon, what can be better than being considered an angel?
7. "You dropped something, my jaw!"
This is you saying that the person is hot. And you have the hots for her. Clever, sweet and cute...
6. "Are you tired? 'Cause you've been running through my mind all day."
Just be careful with this one, because you might some off as some insane lunatic. But if it works, you'll definitely get some good loving because you have just manage to tell the person you are eyeing that you will make them the most important person in the world.
5. "When God made you, He was showing off!"
Another clever and witty way to tell the person that he/she looks good. This one will definitely work best if the person you are going after is also religious.
4. "I may not be the best-looking guy in here, but I'm the only one talking to you."
Using this line, you might wanna think first because you need to look at least decent before these words leave your mouth. If you're a good-looking person, this just shows that you are being modest. And women like non-arrogant SOBs. But if you are ugly, using this line is just broadcasting how pathetic and insecure you are.
3. "See my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I'm cute."
Another way of showing the person you're into that you are not some airhead whose looks is the only important thing in the world. You might also follow this one with something like, "I just can't believe that they always say yes..."
2. "So what haven't you been told tonight?"
Very original, and this one will make you stand out from all the other jerks who tried hitting on that person. You acknowledge their being attractive, while sympathizing with their frustration with those other pathetic losers. You also showed that your are confident and interested enough to try it with them.
1. "I made a bet with myself that you have wonderful eyes. Guess what? I won."
Sweet, cute, smart, witty, romantic. Anything you would wanna hear another person say to you. So why not try it to get the person you like.
So there you go? My Top 10 Best Pick-up Line. Again, use them at your own risk. Well, dating basically that: taking your risk for the person you like. So one day, you can go off to some romantic place and live happily ever after.
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Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Top 10 Worst Pick-up Lines
Ask any woman out there, and they will say that pick-up lines don't work on them. They claim that they are very cheesy, arrogant and demeaning in every way. But regardless what those women has to say, pick-up lines are the most essential part when meeting other people in different social places. That is because any man should start somewhere, and the forst thing he should do is to open a conversation with the woman. And no matter what you do, those words that you will say are going to be categorized as pick-up lines.
That is why it is just very important for men to know what they should say to the girl they see on the bar that they like. Regardless of what women say about not liking pick-up lines, the opening lines should always be funny, witty, original, sincere and subtle. Men should avoid using language that is crude, insulting, condescending, abusive and arrrogant. It may sound like an impossible tasks, but guys should know what they are doing and saying. Or at least what not to say. That is why I present to you, the top 10 worst pick-up lines any guy should not use. Unless he likes to have a slap in the face and a broken ego before calling it a night.
10. "Pssst..."
Talk about being rude. She has a name. Why not just approach her and ask for it. Instead of being a baby and calling her like a dog.
9. “What’s your sign?”
This is the epitome of being cheesy. Added to the fact that this one is as old as your grandmother. You may get to hear very often in movies and TV shows, but this line just doesn't work in real life. And it should be buried immediately.
8. “Pardon me, I seem to have lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?”
Another one of those classics. This was popular around the early to mid-1910's. But you just have to give it a rest because telephones are just not that cool. And using it to pick-up women is just lame.
7. “Can I take your picture? I want Santa to know exactly what I want for Christmas.”
Treating women like they are your property is just something that any man should not do. Especially when they just met. And this line just screams "guy is a egostic maniac who treats women as toys."
6. “Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?”
Arrogant and delusional, do you really think women dig men that are both of these?
5. "How would you like your eggs for breakfast: scrambled, boiled or fertilized?"
This one may sound funny, but trying to be witty at the same time presumptuous is just plain idiotic. And you don't want your dream girl to think of you that way, right?
4. "You might as well sleep with me because I'm going to tell everybody we did it anyway."
Prepare you face because you are definitely going to get slapped the moment these line come out from your mouth. Lines with sexual overtones just don't work on most women.
3. "Hey babe, do you know that my bedroom is soundproof?"
They are not hookers. If you want this line to work, I suggest you guys just head off to the red-light district of your neighborhood.
2. "Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?"
Women don't like to be treated as property, the same way that they don't like the feeling that they are being bought.
1. "If you've lost your virginity, can I have the box it came in?"
You just told the girl that you think she's not a virgin. What's the matter with you? Why not just ask her if it's that time of the month for her too? No pick-up line should have any reference to a woman's genitalia. And for that matter, yours too.
So guys, there you go? These lines may sound funny to you, but they are not to women who are sensitive. That is why never ever use any of these pick-up lines so you can still have a good time without getting beaten up into a bloody pulp.
That is why it is just very important for men to know what they should say to the girl they see on the bar that they like. Regardless of what women say about not liking pick-up lines, the opening lines should always be funny, witty, original, sincere and subtle. Men should avoid using language that is crude, insulting, condescending, abusive and arrrogant. It may sound like an impossible tasks, but guys should know what they are doing and saying. Or at least what not to say. That is why I present to you, the top 10 worst pick-up lines any guy should not use. Unless he likes to have a slap in the face and a broken ego before calling it a night.
10. "Pssst..."
Talk about being rude. She has a name. Why not just approach her and ask for it. Instead of being a baby and calling her like a dog.
9. “What’s your sign?”
This is the epitome of being cheesy. Added to the fact that this one is as old as your grandmother. You may get to hear very often in movies and TV shows, but this line just doesn't work in real life. And it should be buried immediately.
8. “Pardon me, I seem to have lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?”
Another one of those classics. This was popular around the early to mid-1910's. But you just have to give it a rest because telephones are just not that cool. And using it to pick-up women is just lame.
7. “Can I take your picture? I want Santa to know exactly what I want for Christmas.”
Treating women like they are your property is just something that any man should not do. Especially when they just met. And this line just screams "guy is a egostic maniac who treats women as toys."
6. “Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?”
Arrogant and delusional, do you really think women dig men that are both of these?
5. "How would you like your eggs for breakfast: scrambled, boiled or fertilized?"
This one may sound funny, but trying to be witty at the same time presumptuous is just plain idiotic. And you don't want your dream girl to think of you that way, right?
4. "You might as well sleep with me because I'm going to tell everybody we did it anyway."
Prepare you face because you are definitely going to get slapped the moment these line come out from your mouth. Lines with sexual overtones just don't work on most women.
3. "Hey babe, do you know that my bedroom is soundproof?"
They are not hookers. If you want this line to work, I suggest you guys just head off to the red-light district of your neighborhood.
2. "Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?"
Women don't like to be treated as property, the same way that they don't like the feeling that they are being bought.
1. "If you've lost your virginity, can I have the box it came in?"
You just told the girl that you think she's not a virgin. What's the matter with you? Why not just ask her if it's that time of the month for her too? No pick-up line should have any reference to a woman's genitalia. And for that matter, yours too.
So guys, there you go? These lines may sound funny to you, but they are not to women who are sensitive. That is why never ever use any of these pick-up lines so you can still have a good time without getting beaten up into a bloody pulp.
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