What NOT to do on the First Date

First impressions last - that's what most people say. Well, because it's true. That is why everyone who is on the dating game should know that the most important part the game is te first date and how you can use it to either make or break a relationship. Knowing what to do is one thing, but people should also know what NOT to do. And here are just some of them:

1. Trying too hard
It may be true that it's important to establish to the other person that you are a nice person, but it is also true that you should not overdo it. If you're a guy, being the knight in shining armor may be good, but it can also be too tacky. For the ladies, don't be too demure or sensitive. Just be your good self and let everything fall into their right place.

2. Choosing a bad venue
A couple of examples of bad dating venue are a fastfood joint, a Hooters bar and a very expensive resto. The first will tell your date you're cheap, the second that you're a pervert, and the last that you're an arrogant show-off. Just make it low profile, not too cheap and not too expensive. Or you can go on and be creative. A coffee house, the park, the beach - anywhere where the both of you can relax and have a good time talking and getting to know each other.

3. Being wishy-washy
If your date asks you where you wanna go, don't answer them with "doesn't matter." When it's time to order, don't be long and then just say that you're having what your date is having. This shows them that you are a spineless human being with no capability to decided for himself/herself. This is more awful if you're the guy. You don't want your date to think that you are the kind of guy who don't have plans and direction in life.

4. Watching too much TV
If by any chance you and your date end up in a place where there is a TV, say a restaurant or a bar with a tube behind the bar, you should never ever let them catch you watching it. Or better yet, don't even dare try to watch from it. And it doesn't matter if your favorite soap or gameshow is on. If your date is talking, you are suppose to listen and not wander on other things.

5. Being too honest
Honesty is the best policy, but not every time. And that includes the first date. This may not be the right time to tell your date that you have been arrested for drunk-driving or you have just gotten out of rehab. But that doesn't mean that you can lie. Just don't bring up your dark past when it's the first time you're going out with another person.

6. Constantly interrupting
The date is not only about you. Don't keep on jumping in when your date is trying to tell you a story about a trip they had or about their work. There is time for you to talk, and that is not when they are talking. That is just plain rude and is not only applicable on dates but in all kinds of social function. You should have known that by now.

7. Dressing inappropriately
Okay, you wanna impress your date. But please, don't do it with your body. If you happen to have a nice set of abs or breasts, don't flaunt too much of it and show them off with slutty clothes. Though this may work for some people, dressing up properly for the ocassion is still the prerequisite.

8. Going on taboo topics
You can talk about all sorts of things during your first date: yourself, background, work, past trips, etc. But just not the following: previous relationships, past heartbreaks, religion, politics and money. Also, avoid dropping names and bragging because these are topics more appropriate for locker room talks.

9. Flirting with the waiter/waitress
It doesn't matter if the person doing the waiting on your table is cute, hot and sexy. You are on a date and keep your focus on the person you're with. It's just rude to keep on checking out the waiter/waitress, or any other people around, when you are on a date.

10. Being drunk
It's okay to have fun on the first date. In fact, that is the main reason why you're there in the first place. Just don't have too much fun. It's okay to order a couple of alcoholic drinks, maybe a tequila shots for both of you. But it's important to know your limit because you don't wanna end up pissed drunk and you're date, the one person you are trying to impress, see you puking your guts out or passed out somewhere. That's just not cool.

So there you go. Just remember these simple scenearios and never ever let them happen on your first date. And we gurantee you will have an awesome dating life ahead of you.

Ways to Have an Unforgettable First Date

As we all know, the first date is a make-or-break situation. The success of the blossoming relationship strongly depends on whether the couple had a good time the first time they went out. This is also the moment where lasting impressions are made that will be the basis of a continuing partnership. That is why we here at Dating 4-1-1 thought of giving all you people a little reminder on how you can make your first date with that special someone extra romantic and unforgettable.

1. Set the date up right
An unforgettable date starts with a solid setup. So when you call up the person you wanna go out with, just fgo straight to the point and avoid stalling and delaying. Just tell them that you wanna have lunch or have drinks together. This way the other person won't think that you are some pathetic loser who have nothing better to do than to bug them. This shows them that you are a busy individual, but not too busy to get some time with them.

2. Don't be too clingy
One big mistake common on dates, especially on first dates, is that most people try too hard to impress the other person. They make such a big deal in showing their dates that their attention, time and effort are directed to them. Though this may sound sweet, not if done too much. Remember to still give them their space so they won't think once again that you are a desperate loser. Just be cool.

3. Keep your composure
Most people can't keep their composure when other people tests them. But don't ever think that when you are on a date, this is not going to happen. Because it's just a natural act for people to challenge their date's intellect or character, especially women. So just don't let the other person get you off balanced. Respond to them as fast as you can, giving them responses that will impress them of you as a person.

4. Make your move
Remember that whoever does the first move on a date will pretty much be the one who'll have control for the rest of it. So you just have to be smart in figuring out when the right moment arrives for you to make your move. Don't disappoint your date because this is probably what they are also been waiting for all night. But of course, you still have to be subtle with it because you might end up scaring them off.

5. Make it the first
The most effective way to make a lasting impression on the first date and making it special is by having a "first" on it. What do we mean, you ask? Do something that is a first for you date. This way, she'll always remember your date because it is the when she first did a particular thing.

So there you go. Good luck on going out there and grabbing that special someone for you. Just remember to always be yourself because that is the best way to actually be successful in the dating game.

Worst First Date Location

Okay, you're right. The success of a date, specifically the first date, is all about chemistry, connection and good conversation. Making sure that your date like you and you like them is just about what dates are all about. But sometimes, well actually more often than not, being where are and what you are doing also do big when it comes to having big points on dates. Well, we here at Dating 4-1-1 having given you ideas on where and what to do on your first date. So now, how about we give each and every one of your romantic lovers a warning on where not to be during your first date. Ladies and gentlemen, here are some of the worst date location you people don't wanna be in...

His or her parent's house. Dating, as we all know it, should be done in slow steps toward progression. And meeting the parents is definitely not among those things you wanna do first. So just avoid dates involving you or your date's parents because it is just not the time for that.
A family function. Again, succession and patience is the key. And if either of you don't wanna meet the parents, that also goes with anyone of your relatives. That's why family gatherings, reunions and parties are just no-no's when it comes with the first date. You don't wanna let your date meet your annoying aunts and nephews the same day you are trying to impress him/her, don't you?
A non-traditional restaurant. It's alright to go adventurous when going out on dates. But not to the extent that you'll try eating something that you don't really have clue of what it is. SO just stay away from food joints that serves food that you and your date haven't tried out before. You don't wanna remember your first date by the fact that one of your kept on throwing up or taking trips to the bathroom...

Arcades. Being young is good, even if it's only being young at heart. But being childish? That's a different situation altogether. If you're a teenage boy trying to impress your crush, maybe this is a good idea. But if you're already a grown-up guy who is making your own money already, aside from this date being completely stupid, it will just send signals to your date that you are a cheap bastard.

Fastfood joints. Come on, it's your first date with a person you wanna impress. Taking him/her to a fastfood restaurant like McDonalds or Burger King is just pathetic and way cheap. Why not just take them to Chucky Cheese and forget about that second date?
A hotel or a motel. Unless you're some big-time rockstar, you cannot take your date to your hotel or motel room. Aside from giving them an impression that you are some twisted, horny pervert, it is just not cool having your first date with a total stranger in a room with a bed in it.

Shopping malls. This is a shout out to all the ladies. Not all guys like walking through every stores and bringing your things. In fact, most guys just hates shopping. So don't expect your date to have fun because being your shopping buddy on the first date is just not that fun.

The movies. Well, this is kinda tricky actually. But as we all know, first dates are all about getting to know each other. So how would you guys do that when you're trying to watch some movie for two hours? Ummm... NEVER!

Again, these things are just suggestions and ideas. Just always remember that dating is not a clear science and there are really no strict rules to be followed. Just learn to have fun and appreciate the person you're with, and you're surely not gonna go wrong on any dates.

What to Talk About on That First Date...

Congratulations! You just got yourself a date with that hot chick you were eyeing at the bar. Or you're the the hot chick at the bar and you decided that it's alright to go out on a date with this hunky guy. Both of you decided that you'd rather have dinner together instead of taking too much time thinking what kind of date you should go to. Well, it's okay because the first date really is the time to get to know the person you're going out with to find out if they're worth your time. But of course, you can't just go ahead and order then eat your food as fast as you can so you could go home and watch TV. You have to talk with your date so the two of you can have a chance to know more about each other. Say weigh if you'll really click with each other. So here are just some ideas on what you guys can and cannot talk about on your first date.

Avoid talking about the past. Come on, it's your first date. You still have no right to dig up his/her life story. Especially when it comes to their past relationship. Keep th conversation off from issues about the ex's. It's either you'll just end up hurting your date because of bad memories or you getting pissed because they are still not over their former lovers.

"Got any brothers or sisters". This is one of the safe topics you can talk about. It's not very intrusive when asking your date if they have siblings. In fact, it just goes to show that you are very interested not only with them, but also their family. But remember, avoid asking about parents because this may also brought bad memories if they experienced a divorce or separation in the family.

Ask about the places where your date have been. Talking about past travel destinations, yours and your date's, will be fun. Not to say you'll get to know more about their personality because you'll know what kinds of things they like. This will also give you an idea to what kind of second date you can have, granting this first date goes well.

Talk about career plans. This one is actually tricky. For one, your date might go on and on about their achievement in school and on the job, making your night out more lively. But on the other hand, your date may just become upset because they are not really having good time with their work. Just be sure if the latter happen, you have a escape route or another topic in your head.

Ask about their friends. Many people say that you can judge a person with what kind of friends they have. This is a sure way of knowing your date's personality without being too intrusive and pushy. This way, your date may also think that you are nice for asking about people that are close to her.

"What do you do on your free time?" Another safe way to make sure that your date is opening up to you. If they are comfortable talking about things they do on their free time like going to the movies, shopping, roller blading, that means you're in. And this will also give you an idea for a fun activity you both can enjoy for future dates.

"What kind of music do you listen to?" Find out if you guys have the same taste in music. If you do, good for you. If not, tough luck. But at least you get to know what kind of person your date is because of the music they listen to. If more of the mellow type, then your date the sweet kind of person. But if they like heavy metal and goth, then prepare for more wild and crazy fun with them.

There you have it. These are just some ideas of things you guys can talk about when out on that first date. Just remember once again, that first dates are usually the time you'll get to know the other person a little better. So take advantage of this time and make the best out of it and make sure you are getting as much information about your date as you can. This is kind of the make-or-break part of it all, if you still wanna go for that second date or if you wanna bail. So good luck!

First Date Ideas

Okay, after countless hours with flirting and trying to pickup a date on bars, restaurants, coffee houses and malls, you finally got that elusive date with a person you think would likely become a long-time partner. But now, the big question in mind: What kind of date should you bring him/her to? There are so many activities that you can think of that you two can do together. But be careful, because some of them may actually have you crawling back to your very own loner's cave because you turned off your date. That is why we have here some great ideas for our first date with that lucky heart you have just reeled in. Try these first date ideas to be able to impress your future lover, and at the same time know more about him/her to make sure he/she is no some kind of creep.

Go to an amusement park. Okay, this date might be a bit expensive for the first one. But this way you can show your date that you are no cheap bastard and is willing to shell out some money for him/her. Nice way to impress someone, especially the ladies. Also, when you guys are waiting in line to ride the roller coaster, you can pass time by having a great conversation. This way you get to know more about your date which shows that you are really interested on them. And admit it, there is still that kid inside you who wants the thrill of riding amusement rides.

Attend a fair or a festival. It's a lot of fun being in fairs and festivals. There are tons of activities you guys can try out - from pie eating contest to playing parlor games and riding the ferris wheel. If you're a guy, you can also impress your lady friend by trying to win a stuff toy for her in one of those games where you hit a target or shoot a ball through a hoop. This date will have you showing your sensitive and manly side both at the same time.

Play some kind of sports together. It can be billiards, bowling, badminton or even mini-golf. This way you can impress your date with your baller skills, at the same time still having a meaningful conversation with each other. And there is nothing that can make two people a lot closer by having fun together.

Do something artsy. Why not go to one of those pottery shop where you can paint the pots and vase. This way, you both can enjoy an activity together that you can do while talking and getting to know each other. This way, you can also impress your date by showing your artistic side. This is something both men and women find attractive.

Be one with nature. You guys can go hiking, or even walking along the nearest park. Or maybe go to a zoo, an aquarium or an aviary. While checking out the beauty of the environment and discovering the magical wonder that is Mother Nature, you guys can be closer by having a meaningful conversation to get to know each other better.

So there you go. These are just some ideas for what you guys can do when going out for your first date. You can also come up with something more unique and more fun. Just remember that the key to a nice first date is that you guys should have time to talk to each other to get to know each other. And of course, both of you should have lots of fun.